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Jul 11, 2011
Cathryn:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Firstly, I commend and applaud that you broke the cycle of abuse...so many don't. Secondly, I'll address two issues you brought up...about seeing your father in traction being "the most horrifying moment in memory." Your whole world had been turned upside down. You saw your father, the man you looked up to, the man you knew was going to take care of you, the man you depended on, unable to take care of himself. This would shatter a child's world. Such an incident can and does traumatize, so it's no wonder the memory is so horrifying to you. The second issue is about the myth that a person can't get pregnant the first time; it IS a myth and always has been. When I was growing up, this was believed to be the case among the general public, but that has been blasted as an untruth a long time ago. There are so many untruths we've come to believe.

You are a strong woman, Cathryn. A woman with a mission. A woman who would never have had the opportunity to meet and develop the special relationship you have with your sister had your parents not split up. There is purpose to all that happens in our lives, if we choose to see that purpose. Thank you for sharing your story and your message of hope with my visitors and me.

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Jul 12, 2011
Such Horror
by: Anonymous

Cathryn, you were given a raw, crappy deal. Your "parents" and "stepparents" were so twisted and messed up in their own ways of thinking that they didn't even know how to take care of themselves, not to mention be parents/stepparents to you. They didn't know how to love even themselves; all they ever knew was hate so they should've known better and loved and cherished you. Oh, and they are truly sadistic brutes too...and they should go to prison for all those terrible crimes that they committed against you because you did nothing wrong. Oh, and as for your so-called mother, shame on her for beating and running away from you and even throwing you into a bathtub for being raped instead of protecting you from from that slimy rapist of a friend's dad! I am just as disgusted by her reaction towards you getting raped; I hate women who choose men over their own children because children should always come first. Oh, and she is wrong. You are not a whore; you are not a slut; you are none of the lies that she was spewing; remember, lies are lies. That molester just simply chose to offend you, so never believe any of those lies that this sad, tragic excuse of a woman was spewing. You are not to blame for their sadistic, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse and offend you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. Oh, and I'm glad that your husband is with you now because he is so sweet for doing that; I just hope that you try counselling.

Jul 12, 2011
Please Oh Please Be gentle and kind to yourself
by: maurice

Cathryn: The inner resilience and strength with a forgiving heart is powerful I would say more in the female than in the Male: Congratulations on your own empowering of yourself to reach whee you have today in your life: You are a remarkable woman, mother, wife: I pray now your life will be safe a roller coaster which I hope you live to the full with your child who will be your inner believe and strength in yourself: Darlene sure has affirmed you: While pointing out the goodness and greatness in you after your horrific abuse years: Your story will give hope to many when they read how even after such horrific years you have arrived happily married and ensuring your child will be safeguarded from any one who would abuse or harm her: Thanks Cathryn: You have amazed me how forgiving you have become: Well done brave and courageous one: Know some form of counselling is out there to truly put it all in perspective for you too: I am sure with all that you endured that flashbacks must hit you from time to time: Live the NOW time of your life to the full: Live well Laugh Often: Love much: Be gentle and kind on your beautiful self: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT:

Aug 02, 2011
Thank You
by: Cathryn

I want to thank you all for your kind words and support. I have started therapy in earnest, aka with my whole history including my rape and subsequent abortion... I dont know why it was like giving up the one last piece of myself that I seemed so determined to protect and hidden. I really cant stand for anyone to know everything there is to know about me, I feel so exposed and vulnerable. I am trying to get past that... My child, my husband they dont know either about that specific event although the abuse in general was never a secret, but I know they need to. She is going to college so she is old enough to handle it I think... As far as my husband is concerned. I guess I just had to have that one piece of me that only I have. What a strange thing to want to hang onto. Anyway Thank You again!!!!

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