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Mar 24, 2009
Great approach!
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Amy, you are well on your journey toward healing and recovery. I am a firm believer in the concept of "at your own pace" because each of us is unique. And while there are similarities and predictable outcomes with all survivors of abuse, that uniqueness requires a slightly different process for each of us. This process cannot be rushed. It must unfold in a way that meets your particular needs, while also being cognitive of your overall health. You appear to be doing this quite admirably.

I would never expect all abuse survivors to read each and every story on this site (there are nearly 1000 of them). Doing so might benefit some, but that often depends on where the survivor is along their own path toward healing and recovery. Many of the stories on this site act as triggers for some; it can be too painful to keep reading. Amy, (and my other visitors) don't ever feel obligated to put yourself through the emotional turmoil of doing this. When reading is helpful in feeling less alone, it's healthy. But when reading serves to transport you back to those painful times, it can be more damaging, unless you are prepared for that and/or have a support system in place to lean on. Always do what's right for yourself.

I applaud your approach, Amy. It is healthy and balanced. Loving yourself was a lesson I too had to learn along my own path, which was probably the most difficult of all the goals I had set for myself. After all, I had come to believe all the lies I'd been told by my abusers. I'm delighted that you DO NOT believe any of those lies for yourself.

And I couldn't agree with you more: We ARE all a work in progress, whether or not we come from adversity. Thank you for sharing that important message and your story of healing with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir


Mar 24, 2009
Love.Love, Love Yourself Amy.
by: maurice

I did not realiz e for well into my years how important it was for me to look in the Mirror and say I love me. Maybe for an Adult male to do that seems childish or not the done thing. I however had worked through many years feeling parts of my body were Naughty Parts especially my Bottom because someone beat and bruised it for a good number of years to tell me I was naughty. From 11 years of age to almost 18 I was punished for being me. But when I began sharing my abuse to a loving caring person she encouraged me to begin to like my body and me. That was when I learned about loving oneself was natural and normal, healthy and healing for me. Great Amy you have begun the road of loving yourself and sharing that real love back to others in their needs. Especially your parents who have been loving of you since birth. I am so pleased you found another whom you could trust and love to relate you sad years of abuse. Not you fault Amy you did what you new best at the time to deal with being abused. Those times are past, give yourself the greatest and highest of credit for being brave to have the courage to tell your story. Now begin your journey to live your life to the full each day you wake up. Live well, laugh alot and love much.

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