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Mar 01, 2011
Zach:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I gave you a link to hotline numbers the last time you wrote a story here. Please check out the numbers and call the one for where you live: hotlines listed. While writing for this site may be helpful getting it off your chest, no one here can get you the help you really need. You must reach out for help if you have any hope of getting the abuse to stop. You're in danger otherwise. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 01, 2011
you can get out of this
by: Tim L.

I'm sorry you've received this bad news, that he plans to stay around and clearly has no intentions of ending what he's been doing to you. Please tell someone who can help you--the idea of doing so may be frightening, but it is worth it--a few words can save your body, save your life from further domination by this monster.

Don't harm yourself, and don't try to take him on alone--there are people who will help you, who will be better able to get him away from you for good. Don't lie to cover for him anymore; let the world of lies that he has created shrink until he is forced to deal with the truth; because remember, he is the one doing something wrong, he is the one who needs to be embarrassed, he is the one who should be sweating while he thinks of new ways to hide.

If possible, you could try hiding a camera or other recording device in your room at night and thereby obtain proof of what he's done to you without having to broach the subject in words. Or you could just print out what you've posted to this site and give it to someone. But don't stay silent!

Mar 01, 2011
It does matter
by: Cameron

Hay Zach it is not easy to be where you are. I'm sorry that you have been and you are going through something so difficult. I have been sexually abused also. The fear of the people that hurt you can be over bearing sometimes and crushing. The fear of not knowing what to do is even worse sometimes. I am proud of you and I believe in you. You have faught and done well your life is to wonderful. Just because it gets hard don't throw in the towel. You already have an incrediable wonderful life full. Overflowing with a hope and a future. If someone was being held captive by gorrila militants doesn't mean there life isn't worth living or if you were trapped in a storm celer by a tornado. None of this means you should give up. We, who have been abused, can see life so much beautifully once the storm is over becase we can see more clearly the treasure of what life is, becasue we have seen horror, fear, anger, lonliness, and pain. We get to see the world when there are no gorillas destorying the world and the quiteness their is. We get to experience nature after the tornado goes by and see rainbows in the sky. We can have the oppertunity to be the diference in this world and we need everybody. I am glad that their is one more person next to my side who is going to stand with me and say no more. You are already standing up by the fact that you wrote your story down and that is incrediable. It isn't something we can do alone though and army is a unit not an individual. Letting your voice be heard shows how strong and brave you are because you are not one to be silent.
I have been sexually abused and thought about just ending it. I knew pain, lonliness, anger, and vulnuriablity. It can be over bearing sometimes. There was a saying that I heard You can't judge life by one bad day" I held on to that even still. When I am having a bad day.
People are there who love you and will cherish you like the jewel you are. Just speak out a little louder.

Mar 01, 2011
IT does matter
by: Cameron

I agree I thoght of the video camera as well to chatch him. While he is gone at work or when you know he isn't home Try putting the camera in a unobvise spot like behind stuffed animals a fish tank behind a poster on the wall. Try to make sure the red light is covered and any noises aren't going to happen like a tape rewinding. If you don't have one and can't borrow one use a tape recorder. If you have the camera on the other side of the room maybe use a timer for the hooked up to the camera. So that it will turn on without you haveing to get up to turn it on but will automatically start. You can be free from him Because if he is using things to knock you out then he may already be doing this abuse to others. The people aprt of this army so you are standing up for your commrades and watching their back. The biggest thing though is to call a hotline or tell somebody who can help you with this we are an army not an individual. Tell your school counselor, teacher, principle. Call a pastor (Not catholic) You take your voice to somewhere where it will be heard and can't be ignored. Another thought is if you have a cell phone call or land line cal 911 as soon as he comes in or if you hear him coming hide the phone.

Mar 02, 2011
Zach...
by: AnonymousT

I responded to you before as the 1st Anonymous in your other post. I remember you.

Telling is scary, but you just HAVE to do it. What's better - living in fear at home or not knowing what may be around the corner even though you're safe from him?

You don't know how your parents will react, fine. But once the secret is OUT he has NO POWER over you aany longer!!

If for any reasons you tell someone & they don't beleive, tell someone else. Tell & tell again. The SECRET keeps it ging, when we tell THEIR secret (the abuser afterall is the shamed one), we release OURSELF.

Be strong. You have support here. Use those hotlines.

I believe in you.

T

Mar 02, 2011
The sooner, the better...Tim and Cameron are right!
by: Anonymous

Zach, I can't believe that your parents would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick monster of a brother...how dare they! If he doesn't want to go to college, then he should've gotten the courage to leave and go to the vocational school instead of abusing you. The path that he and your parents chose is inexcusable! You deserved so much better than what he did to you; he doesn't deserve you in his life, so the sooner you tell, the better. Tim and Cameron are right! Please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you.

Mar 02, 2011
Be Brave: Be strong. tell on him Stop him hurting You
by: maurice

Zach C: great you had the courage to return and release more of the hurt, pain, humiliation that Bad, beast of a brother is making you endure at his hands: You do not deserve that: you deserve to the best which all of us who have read your story wants for you: I do empatise with you as indeed does Darlene: once again she has given you loving advice from her heart especially to you: As she write's only you can have the courage within you to be counselled: to tell on that someone in your life that happens to be your brothr but is sure far from it: Your parent's can't be all that dumb that they must have noticed: Zach C I said alot in my last comment: I believe in you as does indeed all who left comments to your horrific story of abuse: Will you Always believe in yourself: I will: I can: I must: because I am WORTH it; Get my message to you Zach C:

Mar 02, 2011
To Zach
by: Natalie

Hey Zach, I remember reading your first post about half a year back. Hopefully you won't find it strange to hear that since then, I have thought back to it pretty often, with the hope that things had turned out okay for you. You're around the same age that I am... so I do understand why telling and getting help seem out of reach. But as has been said, getting yourself out of the situation should definitely come first. If your town has a family crisis center or something similar, somewhere where you can temporarily stay to get away from your situation and get help, that might be a good resource. I hope that these comments reach you in some way, you deserve to be free and have power over your own life.

Mar 03, 2011
tell your mum the truth
by: Im a soldier

Hi zach you really need to tell your mum exactly what happens she will support you and do what the others have sugested, I know its difficult you can't tell your mum because your own reasons but look how much you have been affected by it. You are more entitled to a life then your brother because he is abusing you, please please please tell somebody anybody.

Mar 03, 2011
I have been There
by: Anonymous JJ

I have been in your position but was to young to tell only 4 & 5 and the havok it reaked on my life has taken me 21 years to correct because of druinking too escape the feeling that it must be my fault. Then I saw the end of "Good Will Hunting" where Robing williams tells will that it is not his fault over and over and the epiphany hit it was not my fault. And tears fell for hours of relief, I was not guilty of anything. They were supposed to take care of me! Zach is supposed to take care of you not hurt you.

Well I am here to tell you It is Not Your Fault. Again; It is Not your Fault, It is Not Your Fault. You do need to tell someone. I would suggest a person at school not a Parent. Parents tend to react emotionally and you are already vunerable thus, you will not understand any of their emotions. You do not listen to any person that may say you are a liar you have the proof in the multiple X-rays of broken bones. And, if he is escalating, and drugging you the danger is going to get worse life threatening even.

I will not lie and say that it will be easy or tunout to be non chaotic but telling is your power. Telling Is your strenghth, telling is a reminder to yourself that this is not your fault. It is your devine right to be safe. And no matter what ensues after wards I can guarrante you this having lived throght it you will learn not only how to survie but LIVE. And living is your devine right that is also why you need to tell so that you may learn to live which is your devine right.

You can do this the school will help they have your best intrest at heart and you make sure to tell every one about all the previous broken bones they need to know for extra proof because they can get the hospital or doctor records. it is so important. You are not tearing a family apart you are pointing out that it is already broken, and torn apart already they just did not know, or want to know other wise they would have delved into the broken bones and brusies more. So don't you fall for that ole game either.

You are loved, you are suppoted, you are strong, and this is your devine right to be safe and live.

Mar 06, 2011
Zach
by: Anonymous

Zach, he is your brother and in some sense you love him as such and that makes it hurt even more. He hurts you but you feel that it is not right to tell on him because he is your brother. I know how you feel, your head hurts, your heart hurts and you feel sick all off the time. It really does hurt to tell on someone you love but Zack you must. Telling does not mean you will lose your brother, it means you will get the help you need. Things can be made right but it does take time but at the moment the most important thing is YOU. Please Zach tell some one you really trust. I told a friend knowing his father was a police man and my nightmare ended but i still love my brother.

Apr 03, 2011
The Answer is Simple
by: Anonymous

The answer to this problem is simple: tell someone. Your parents, a teacher you trust, a friend, I don't care who but tell someone. If you don't this problem is never going to go away, you HAVE to do something. If you don't help yourself no one will. Try it, stop him.

Apr 03, 2011
Stop Him: You must: Tell on Him:
by: maurice

The more you allow him to abuse you, now with his new found method he will continue to feel it is righ: STOP him NOW don't let him away with it: He is a molester, sick, perverted, a no good brother to be having in your life: He does not give a damn about your pain, your feelings, the effects of what is is doing to you in you wanting to live a normal childhood/adolecent/young adult life to the full: He has ruined it for you already: You are no idiot: You are an intelligent thinking young man: STOP him now from ruining your life and possibly his own as he might be molesting other children/adolecetns: You will be brave, you will be strong you'll tell on him: It is for your best: Your parents need to know because he is fooling them too: Zack C I wan what is the best for you: DO YOU WANT WHAT IS THE BEST FOR YOU: The answer is YES>YES>YES because I am WORTH it: Counselling will help: a good friend or two will give you confidence to do what is right for you to do: You take charge of your future: You know what he is doing to you is WRONG WRONG: you are a bigger brother (boy) Son of your parents NOW: Darlene has spoken to you in her comment: She heard your cry for help and advice: She has spoken from her Heart to yours:

Jun 16, 2011
hey
by: Anonymous

can you move out, stay with other ppl??
if you cant tell your parents there are lots of free counselling services you could go to, its always hard to start to talk but when youve been a few times it can help you to figure out how you feel and open up to your parents and brother a little. thinking of you xx

Jun 21, 2011
do it. please
by: Hannah

SInce i have first read your story for some reason i cant stop thinking about you and the pain your in. i pray for you. and all abusive victims but you MUST stand up. you can STOP your monster of a brother. BLOOD is not what relates family. LOVE is. we, all of us on this site are here to support you. and are your family. i'm 15 and my mom hurt me so bad when i was little but i told people. i got someone to do something about it. please please please tell your parents. stop this monster. your brave. your name in hebrew means "God has remembered" remind god of you and help yourself. do not end your life. i know what its like to feel so horribly hurt that you have such unbelievable pain and suffering but please please please help yourself. i will pray for you now and every day. and i will hope to Hashem ( it means god in hebrew) that your monster is stopped. Hashem will remember you. and YOU need to help your self because you have the power. we and i and all of us are your family. and remember life will go on. amen. :(

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