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Jan 06, 2012
Yessica:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You were betrayed and abandoned by your mother, and her absence and abuse set you and your siblings up for sexual abuse. I must also point out to you that none of what happened was your fault, Yessica. When you say that laying with that man (and I use the term loosely; he's actually a pedophile) must have given him the wrong impression, that's taking responsibility for something that wasn't yours to bear. He was the adult, you were the child. It was up to HIM to keep his hands and other body parts to himself. Period. End of story. And if he thought you were doing something inappropriate, it was HIS responsibility to bring it to your attention and put an end to it. Just know that you did NOTHING inappropriate. As for the fears you have for your little one, please contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Both you and your child deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and love, Yessica. Reach out for any and all resources available to you. Consider contacting a women's shelter to find more resources available to you and your child. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 07, 2012
keep your eyes open
by: Anonymous

Yessica,

The feelings you had to hide from yourself to survive as a child are coming out now and you need to trust yourself. Trusting someone else is something you did as a child and unfortunately, the adults in your life betrayed you. There's potential for that with your daughter so you're right on about watching out for her. If there's a real problem it won't go away. What you're witnessing in your young daughter's behavior says a lot. Keep your eyes open to her dad's behavior. If you feel that your ex-boyfriend's visits are possible occasions where she's being abused, you'll be able to see it in his behavior when he's with her. There are countless stories on this site that offer clues about warning signs. Though your ex has the right to see his daughter her right to safety comes first.

Best Wishes

Jan 07, 2012
councelling
by: bernice

Dear Yessica
I am soory that you have suffered of sexual abuse.
I want you to realize that by writing about it on this web site is a very good thing.That is a cry for help from the past and the present.I know what it is like to be violated and have the shame hidden inside.Don't deny yourself of help of any kind.You need to get it all out.You've held it inside for so long and you need to release it all
for yourself and also think of your daughers safetiness.She is vulnerable and needs you.She will one day thankyou for doing that when she is older and understand why you protected her.I found councelling to be a very helpful thing.You gain all confidence back and your strength developes and you learn about boundries.Call protective services and talk to them about what is happening.None of this is not your fault.
Happy New Year
Bernice

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