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Oct 24, 2009
Not your fault...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

While telling may have prevented the other foster girl from getting molested, V, you were a child who had learned you couldn't trust the one adult in the house in charge of protecting you and keeping you safe from harm. Responsibility lies with the adults in your life. The social workers had a duty to check to make sure you and others were in a safe home. They failed in those duties. You are not to blame. It wasn't your fault. Always remember that. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Oct 24, 2009
Child Abuse Story From VLM
by: KJA

I'm sorry that happened to you dear, I do hope that you will be able to move on and cope with what happened. IT still surprises and hurts me that a woman would turn a blind eye to a child, even if its not her own, a woman should be more motherly and caring its just something that women do. I do wish you the best and you are very brave for telling your story.

Oct 24, 2009
stronger now
by: aka christina

well i just was soooooooooo thankful that i could voice what had happen to me, when i found this web site, that my spelling was so horrible becuz i was trying to write so fast......first of all my family was "christians" so i think thats why she turned her head away from my pleads for them not to leave me alone with my brothers, but that is where it happens the most....it makes my stomach turn, and my heart sink just to know that there are such nasty, careless and disturbing people in this world....the thing that kills me now that i have to face every day, is no matter where i work, who i see, who i may speak to, and who i offer to help, i cant ever help the question that always haunts my mind, " i wonder what they have done, should i do something, should i ask, i wonder if theyve ever hurt a child or anyone, i wonder if this is one sicko that i could confront and get him out our stores, schools, streets and away from america's children????" i cant help it, i have 3 awesome babys now, a wonderful husband, but continuously, i beat myself up over why they didnt do anything.....and the fact that they have all shunned me --as i have them, i just dont understand y they couldnt of done something, but they were too worried about their own reputation then to know that hell itself sat in the midst of the their " god" family .....i look back now after being educated on sexual abuse and i see how i cried out for help in so many ways( without even realizing it), but nobody heard,(nobody chose to hear)...... my husband thanks to him, if it werent for his strength, i honestly dont know where id be....i have nightmares beyond the imagination about things happening to my kids, and my brothers getting a hold of me now as a grown woman, and i wake up sweating, and terrified to go back to sleep....thank you dearly for sharing your story, i love you and i wish the bestest for you, im terribly sorry you went thru that, just remember 'its not your fault.....' im still trying to believe that myself.......GOD bless, and hope to hear from you again.....

Oct 27, 2009
When trust fails you as a child then it takes time to rebuild it
by: maurice

VLM, you were let down, you were unfortuneate that you were put into a so called safe home to be abused like you were. That failure by that woman to love and care for you as you appointed guardian. Oh she has alot to answer for. Your life has been ruined by such lack of trust and care. VLM Don't Quit believeing in yourself. You be the winner, It always takes time maybe years to build trust in others after what happened you. Darlene sure has given you words of care, love encouragement please read her comment. You are articulate and highly intelligent in the way you expressed what happened to you to Darlene and her visitors. We all care about your welbeing now. we love you and pray for you. The all important thing for you to do is get professional help first and then begin to trust someone who truly listens to you, understands you, values you for the wonderful and beautiful person you are NOW. that is most important. VLM you can be the winner. Begin by having a healthy mind in a healthy body. get involved with others in team activities, groups who will energise you, You'll find someone of equal intersts and hopes for their future. Build up your own self worth and self esteem. begin by having a good mirror image of yourself because your worth it. See that beautiful me in the mirror be gentle and kind to your body, soothe away the negative thoughts and feelings you have about your body now which in turn will begin to erase the abuse that happened you. VLM SAY OVER AND OVER AGAIN. I WAS NOT TO BLAME, IT WAS NOT MY FAULT. VLM stay strong you'll succeed and be the winner.I'M THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON NOW TO LOVE AND BE LOVED

Nov 05, 2009
child abuse hater is sickened by wat people can do to children
by: child abuse hater

i am horrified to hear wat these people have done to you and i am sickened by how the carer did nothing to help u wen u needed help the most, i cant imagine the things you went thru being sexualy abused and i would never wish it upon anyone.

i hope your life is rebuilding and u r living a better life then wat u was as a child, all tho u dont know me just remember i am there with u thru life.

child abuse hater is a strong believer and believes all children abused can overcome there trauma and make there lives be the way they wanted them.

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