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Nov 09, 2010
Vincent:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

There is NOTHING wrong with you. You are NOT worthless; you are worthy of dignity and respect. You are NOT unlovable; you ARE lovable and deserve to BE loved. None of what's happened to you is your fault. NONE OF IT. All of this is on HIM, not you. This is not about smoking. Your father is a sick and twisted man who is taking out his anger and rage on you, his precious and worthy son. Please consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about what you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Nov 11, 2010
You are not worthless.
by: Anonymous

It's ok to mourn the father you never had. It's ok to want a dad.

You are not worthless. He wanted you to feel that way, don't let him win. You be the best you can be.

Therapy of course is the best answer...but until that can happen - what's your favorite thing to do? Fish? Draw? Sing?....Try it all. If you try, you'll find that thing that gives you drive to do it again & again. It may not heal us - but it gives us confidence. Find your confidence booster, don't hand it all to him.

I have faith in you.

Nov 14, 2010
why do innocent children as they grow up have to suffer the effects:?
by: maurice

Another real, sad, tragic story of down right physical abuse where the child who suffered at the fists and hands of a brute of a so called father is still effected by it: Vincent, Darlene has put it in perspective for you: You were NOT to BLAME: It was NOT your FAULT: She knows best and is ever so loving, caring, concerned about your feelings that all she wrote to you in her comment was from her heart to you: Take special note of her advice: Loving and helpful: Begin today seeking out counselling: You will benefit in a huge way: your whole attiude will become clear and you will begin to love the real beautiful: wonderful YOU: Celebrate YOU: I am wroth Celebrating: Who ME??? yes you Vincent: I want what is best for you: Darlene sure wants what is the best for you: NOW you want the best for yourself: I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH it: Start today also having a healthy mind in a healthy body: Look in the mirror and see the fine young man you are NOW: let go of what that beast and brute did to your gentle, tender body: You never deserved such physical beating or punching: Vincent say IT WAS NEVER MY FAULT: I must not lay blame on me: Jump out of that bed each morning into a bright new day for yourself: Motto Vincent: I will: I can: I must: etc vincent

Nov 18, 2010
Sending angels to watch over you
by: Mohter/Grandmother's Love

Vincent,

This man you called father is not worthy of you as his beautiful child from your mother that now resides with God in Heaven. Any man or woman that places harm to a child is not worthy of God's love. Every child born onto this earth is a special gift from God. Please find in your heart to never treat a human as you have been treated believe in your heart if your mother would have survived she would have been very disappointed in his actions and would have removed you immediately from this monster.

You are a very lucky man to have survived this mans bad actions, most children die at the hand of bad parents.

My Granddaughter was molested by her stepfather for years at the age of 4 and disclosed at the age of 5. Thank God she had the strength to disclose before this monster totally destroyed her life.


From the heart of a grandmother I wish I could remove the pain you both received in this life.
Remember one thing never display those actions upon another child, it is said abused children abuse as adults. I disagree, after speaking out of your pain, I pray: should you be blessed with a child that you cherish and love this child as a special gift from God. May God Bless your journey in this life to be safe from all harm and to be loved by very special people to replace all the bad you have experienced in your younger life.

God has special plans for your future. God has special plans for your so call Fathers actions also.

He will have to answer to God in the end.

You are a beautiful young man,Your mother would have been so proud of you for speaking up to protect yourself from his abuse.

I pray for your future journey in this life to bring you lots of happiness, love, peace and keep you safe from all harm.

Keep moving forward as a mother and Grandmother I think you deserve a Gold Medal for removing yourself from this monsters abuse.

Hold your head up and fight for your rights.

The world will love and help you, just reach out, we are all God's children our job here on earth is to love and protect each other.

Sending our love across the net for you to stay strong, remember you are not alone. AMEN...

Nov 18, 2010
nurse, teacher question
by: My Two Cents

I echo all of the comments made to you by the other posters.

I do have one concern here - in your story, you mention a teacher and a nurse being in a position to help you. I understand that you asked them not to report it, but I was under the impression that teachers and nurses (among others) were mandated reporters - that is, they are required by the law and their professional lisencing bodies/associations to report suspicions of abuse.

It really frightens me to think that two people without any child welfare training (I assume) basically investigated this themselves and settled on a course of action. What if you could have been helped sooner? What if it had gotten worse, to the point that you were permanently injured or killed?
The laws about reporting susicipion of child abuse exist to protect the child/vulnerable person from harm.

To me, that aspect of your story is the scariest part. I do not believe the adults who "helped" you did so appropriately in your case and everyone involved was extremely lucky it worked out for you.

I am glad you are safe.

Be well.

My Two Cents

Dec 02, 2010
You are everything your father couldnt be
by: Dan1

One thing that i always love saying is,"I cant wait to be a dad because i know i'm not going to be like my dad".My father was an alcoholic aswell.He was also a stepdad to 2 older siblings i had.His alcoholic problems almost had him rape 1 of my older siblings.my mom still reported him,and was never locked up,only thrown out of the house.My mom didnt want me and my older bro to grow up with a father in jail.Long story.i cant believe your father treated u that way.your are not worthless or unlovable.u deserve better than him dude. i understand that you want a father in your life.it doesnt have to be him.Do u have Uncles or close friends?I can relate to years back when i was going thru Neglect from my mom.Her and i were so disconnected since i was 14(i'm 21 now)because she prefered her BF.He was a real punk.He caused so much trouble and my mom never wanted to open her eyes.i would defend her from him but at the end she'd look at me like the bad guy so i just stopped talking to her.she never supported me in anything.when i was 19 i left her house in search of a mom.i found 1.She was a distant cousin of my mom which makes her my aunty.Its kinda complicated to explain how i feel about my mom. its like i love my mom but i dont like her.i really hope things get better for u Vincent. you dont deserve any of this.your dad is just mad because he cant be you.He's an alcoholic and he's prabably looking for someone to blame. but it aint your fault.Remember that.
Always by yourside
Dan1

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