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Nov 12, 2007
My thoughts and opinion
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

I'm delighted to learn that you are not ashamed, Vicki. You have nothing to be ashamed of; you were sexually assaulted, regardless of how it physically felt to you. The reprehensible grown men—all loathsome sex offenders—who molested you should be in prison for what they did. They are the worst of all criminals who should never be allowed near children.


To answer your question, yes, our negative childhood experiences, including sexual molestation, leave an impression that can result in unwanted sexual preferences. Facts are facts; sexual stimulation feels good. It's not unusual for a victim of sexual assault to experience something pleasant, but that does not mean that sexual assault did not take place. I've said this before on this site, and I will keep saying it.

Vicki, assessing blame serves little purpose. Reasoning out and understanding what's happened to you and why it's still happening DOES help to put things into proper perspective; I'm all for that. But I am not an advocate of blaming others for choices we make as adults. As a child, you had few, if any choices. No child can be held responsible or accountable for what you described. As an adult, you DO have choices. At thirty years of age, you can choose to act on your preferences, or choose not to act on them.

Perception is everything, Vicki. I strongly urge you to seek out some form of counselling. Counselling can help you put your worries and concerns into perspective so that you can maintain a healthy relationship with your husband, and not allow the adversity in your childhood to continue to interfere with your adulthood. The happier and healthier you are in your marriage, the happier and healthier your two children will be.

Dec 13, 2007
note from me:
by: Anonymous

Darlene is right this isn't uncommon. And it could be becaise of your childhood. There are many people who have been through what you have been and to this day are very different and are experiencing and doing things that they have questions about. This is not normal at all. Just be yourslef and don't let any man try and control you ever. xoxo


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