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Jan 24, 2012
Valerie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Please stop beating your Self up about what you did and did not do as a child. You did NOT "deserve" what happened to you. Period. End of story. For goodness sake, take a look at what 6, 7, 8 and 9-year-olds look like. See how young and innocent they really are. And then realize that was you at that age. These two boys were likely abused themselves, and as a result, took that out on you, someone who was young and vulnerable. You didn't tell because of fear. Don't condemn your Self for that fear. It was a part of what you endured. To judge your Self as a little girl is to apply the mature adult values that you developed moving through the various ages and stages of your life. Fear is a powerful thing, Valerie. The trick now is to overcome that fear with love. Self love. And know that you can take back your power.

You have a sexual preference with your boyfriend. Embrace it as an exciting power exchange between two consenting adults, not as a mirroring of what you endured as a child at the hands of two very sick young boys. The fact that you were too afraid to speak to your parents about what these two boys did to you tells me that it wasn't entirely safe to speak out in your home as child. These are all issues that are best addressed with a professional. Please seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what you endured, Valerie. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Sharing and helping others who have gone through something similar is indeed very cathartic, and so helpful to the other person. It's why this site is so successful. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and healing energy.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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