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Jan 24, 2014
Travis:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's quite possible that what you're going through right now is tied directly to the feelings of having such a shared traumatic experience with this little girl when you were just a little boy. But more importantly, if you ARE having inappropriate thoughts about either of your wife's children, you need to remove yourself from the situation and get help. Your cousin is troubled. And she's reaching out to you in the same way she reached out to you when you were both little. She has not grown from that place. She's still stuck as that little girl. The fact that you've even considered what she's suggesting says that you yourself still have a great deal of healing to do.

The adults in your life betrayed and abandoned both you and her. The people who ere in charge of keeping you safe from harm were the ones inflicting or enabling the harm. But you don't have to be that same way. The fact that you recognize your thoughts as wrong and don't want to act on them is very different than that of your father. He DID act on them, and then denied he was doing it, and kept doing it. So he knew it was wrong but did it anyway. Seek out the help you need, Travis. You deserve it. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 24, 2014
kindness is the antidote to abuse
by: Anonymous

Brave of you to write, Travis. You will get better now that you have written down what happened and your fears for your behavior. I too had fears for myself at one point and went to a therapist for help that I would act on my thoughts that would float into my head. I was molested when I was seven and I am still blamed for it. Just recently I sent an e-mail to my abuser about his behavior when we were children, he has a granddaughter and I told him I wish I could protect her from him. That helped me a lot to say that. I also told him I don't think he is capable of apologizing for his behavior back then but I will do it for him.

It just helps to write and talk to people, Travis. You are kind and loving if you are married. No one marries anyone if they are not kind at some point. My neighbor and I talk about our early experiences with abuse and we both agree that being kind is the best antidote to the poison of abuse.
God bless and keep you. Find KIND people to talk to, Travis. REALLY kind people.

Jul 31, 2014
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by: Anonymous

i did not seek help, but after doing things i couldnt wash from my past, my cousin is still in my heart, but fixing and healing what ive done to my son is what means the most.

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