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Mar 06, 2012
Tina:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your father didn't have sex "with" you; he sexually abused you. And the fact that you were turned on by certain stimuli doesn't mean you weren't sexually abused, it means your body betrayed you. Your father is a pedophile. He took advantage of your youth and vulnerabilities. There was a dynamic present as a result of the father-daughter relationship, a dynamic that left you with confusion and feelings that you couldn't make sense of. I also understand you wanting to have a baby, someone to love who will love you back. Thankfully, that didn't happen, because if it had, you would have been ill-equipped to raise a baby. You don't know what you don't know. There's no guarantee that having had a baby would have ultimately proved that he was sexually abusing you because you don't know how people would have viewed the whole situation. Besides, that is no reason to have a baby, a baby that is not responsible for what happened to you or anyone else. This is ALL on the pedophile, Tina. HE chose to abuse you. HE was the adult. HE had all the power. Now you're left with the residual. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. Please seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to deal with all the confusion, the betrayal, the abandonment (someone MUST have know, including your mother), the self-blame (unfounded - what happened to you will never be your fault...EVER), shame (not yours to bear), all that you've been left with. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. I send you love, light and healing energy, Tina. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Mar 07, 2012
You and Your Body Bear No Blame
by: Anonymous

I agree with everything Darlene said, except that your body did not betray you. Your body cannot choose to do so, it can only do what it has been programmed to do by biology. You are very brave for speaking out here, and for having enough self-worth to do so. Bless your heart, Tina. I too send you love, light and healing energy.

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