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Jun 09, 2010
Tanja:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have NOTHING to feel shame for. Shame is on the shoulders of the man who sexually abused you. And to say you "let it go on for 5 years" is to take responsibility for actions HE was responsible for. He took advantage of your youth and vulnerabilities, and your fear. He's STILL affecting that fear. Please reconsider your silence. Not only could it save another child from suffering the same fate; it could truly begin the healing you so deserve. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 09, 2010
Please rethink your decision
by: Mike

As Darlene said, it was not your fault and by telling someone, you can get some help for yourself so you can move on with your life, and you can help to make sure he doesn't hurt more people. He will hurt more people until someone tells, and you will feel guilty and be affected by it until you get help.

Please, for your sake, for his sake, and for the sake of probably many others, don't keep quiet.

It's NOT your fault and you did NOTHING wrong. It's time to step up and make a change.

Jun 10, 2010
For something that was never of your doing: Be strong:
by: maurice

I was a beautiful innocent vunerable child when this beast of a man took advantage of me especially knowing how vunerable I was with my parent splitting: He was no friend of anyone's he deceived you and you Father when he sexually abused You TanJa: Oh pretty please do talk, do tell even the closest of your close friends: I am certain you have one from your childhood days or school days: Even now in your college: Are you closer to one of your parents more than the other whom you can trust: An Aunt or extended family member: Don't carry his guilt on your shoulders any longer: He was the abuser: You were the innocent one: Say I am not to blame: You are a caring person because you are worried is he doing what he did to you to other little girls: Oh Tanja, Darlene really spoke from her heart to you and Mike sure did too: Please ACT on her encouring words to you: Get help through counselling but trust one other with your pain: Then you will have a friends who will open up new horizons and new beliefs in yourself: Be strong: Be safe: Stay safe: Always believe in yourself: By putting all he did to you by sexually abusing you into perspective you will free your own mind: Open up a whole new world for you to have a healthy mind in a healthy body in: Oh yes Tanja your only 21 get out there with your friends and college mates being active and alive taking part in sporting and cultural activities: Oh yes,Tanja that will open up your mind and you will have genuine and true buddies: frinds; companions for life: Team mates bring the out all that ius good in each other out: The freedom of being yourself in a team or togetherness with others is all empowering: Blieve me I know because for the past 40 years I've witnessed it and promoted it: Think positive: act positve: Be positive in all you do and say about yourself: Off your bottom now and the first thing you do is trust someone with your pain and story: A counsellor: then out with your friends kicking a ball or whatever: OK

Jun 15, 2010
Please read
by: Anonymous

OMG serious? i just want to say, if u want to be a NORMAL 21yrold then u should realize a few things, and please dont see this as a personal attack. You are 21 now, old enough to run your own life and not allow people to dictate the true person hidden behind that wall. dont be afraid, its not to late to save someone else from it happening to. I know it's hard for u to maybe think about ur past and it hurts i get that (trust me) but what about the rest? what if he is? its up to. Its never to late to report somene. You could be saving the innocence of a baby, u have the strength. Also, alot of 21yr olds are not normal, believe me. do u really think people are telling everyone about the worst things of their lives? no they aint. it's all hidden, just like u hide urs. Take care girl.

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