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May 04, 2011
Tamar:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You need help processing this. What your father did that night was wholly inappropriate. Whether or not you were sexually abused beyond what you were forced to witness (called non-contact sexual abuse) I cannot say. But I do caution you to not make assumptions about this just because you can't remember your childhood. Even though your father did what he did, it doesn't mean he (or your mother) went further. Many people don't remember a lot about their formative years, not because anything bad happened or they blocked something out, but rather because they simply don't have the recall. That's not to suggest you haven't been traumatized by what you saw. Obviously, this has adversely affected you. I strongly recommend you seek out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what you witnessed, and to explore your concerns. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 05, 2011
So many sick people
by: Anonymous

Tamar, what your parents did to you was unforgivable. Oh, and as for your mom, shame on her for running away from you instead of protecting you from that beast of a father! I can't believe that she chose to just stand there and do nothing about that sicko offending you, so please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you!

May 05, 2011
I am very special: I am highly gifted: Always Believe in Yourself
by: maurice

Great you found Darlene's site: Now act on her true heart comment to you Tamar: I will I can I must because I am WORTH it: It is a safe place to begin to loving the beautiful and wonderful you Tamar: I'M SPECIAL; Yes, Darlene sure has given you her woman's heart empowering words of hope and encouragement: Combine them with having a healthy mind in a healthy body then Tamar you are on a winner for life: I know and I am convinced with my words of encouragement for you to become active and alive (Off your Bottom) with your friends, fellow students taking part in team sports and sporting and cultural activities your dreams, hopes and horizon will open out in a clearer picture for you: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: Going for counselling will empower you tooo and put what you experienced as a child in what your Ftaher did: will be totally put in perspoective: When you take part with like-minded people your own age and gender you'll bloosom and make real and natural friends for life: Love the ME looking out at you from the mirror: Hug and cuddle LOVE into yourself and your body: Value and respect your beautifulness of mind and body: Be gentle and kind to YOURSELF Tamar:

May 06, 2011
To Tamar
by: Mag

It sounds like you realize that this incident is NOT your fault and this is good. You are innocent. I am so sorry you experienced this but now you can heal from it with help from a counselor. Find someone who will listen, support and encourage you. You are strong.

May 31, 2011
Thank you guys for your support!
by: Tamar

Thank you guys for all your support. I will be moving out of my parents house this Saturday and as soon as I do i'm going to seek therapy and then open up to my sister about the incident.
I know she will be there for me and it will be a big load off my shoulders to tell her what has happened in the past.

Thank you!

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