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Oct 21, 2010
Sue:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I understand the conflict you feel. The comments about the weight loss are triggering you. Believe it or not, this is a good thing. How you look at things matters. If you consider that these triggers are an opportunity for you to work through the "stuff" you've not been able to work through as yet, an opportunity to once and for all deal with this "stuff", you will give yourself the gift of allowing them to let go of you. You've analyzed the situation very well, something I've always been good at too. But what happened to me was that I analyzed at the expense of dealing with my own pain. Once I realized that I had to deal with my own pain in order for that pain to let me go, then I got to work. I speak about that in my memoir. Sue, you are sabotaging you efforts at weight loss (or close to sabotaging them) because you don't want to deal with the emotional trauma of the sexual abuse. But only when you do will you be free of it. The sexual abuse is over, Sue. You are in a safe place now, much as it might not feel as though you are. Part of your healing process will be to open up about this to your counselor. It will be difficult, grueling even, but the final outcome is one you cannot begin to imagine: one of freedom, self-love (YES, you ARE lovable exactly as you are), and eventually of spiritual connectivity. Yes, you're scared, but you are NOT alone. Embrace the support you have. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Oct 21, 2010
Light at the end of the tunnel
by: Simone

Sue, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Darlene is right about working through the abuse of the past. You can learn to love yourself and truly live life to the fullest. Getting help to assist you through so much hurt is done in stages. Even if you take it gently in baby steps, you will get there. You should also do something to reward yourself for the weight that you have lost. You are very courageous. You can do this.

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