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Jun 19, 2013
Stefanie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The guilt and shame is not yours to bear. Don't blame yourself for what happened to you as a little girl. You were groomed and taken advantage of at a very vulnerable age. Your abuser understood your vulnerabilities and used them against you. When you apply adult more mature values to what you did and didn't do as a small child is doing yourself a disservice. Your babysitter and uncle had all the power and used it in a despicable way. The adults in your life turned a blind eye, and even knowingly put you in harms way. Your abusers and the enablers are the ones who have guilt and shame to bear. Your healing begins by recognizing that you did nothing wrong. You were manipulated and controlled. As for your daughter, from what you've shared, she is likely acting out the anger and hostility she carries as a result of the abuse she endured. She is also likely trying to gain back control in her life, and doing so in ways that may be harmful to her. Setting limits is important, but in a loving non-angry way, otherwise she will rebel even more. I hope you are in some form of therapy in order to help you deal with what you were forced to endure so that you can heal, but also so that you can be even more present for your daughter. I send you both love, light and healing energy, Stefanie. Thank you for sharing yours and your daughter's story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 26, 2013
Phase
by: Madison

Hello, Stefanie. I would first like to say how very sorry I am that this has happened to you. But I would also like to help you with your daughter. I just turned 13 today and I was sexually abused too. I'm also in a Christian family. But it looks like to me that your daughter is just going through a phase. I'm going through it right now. I'm really into Marilyn Manson and that sort of music and I wear gothic makeup and I'm begging my mum to let me dye my hair black. But I still talk to God and my diseased brother every single day. The symptoms of sexual abuse that I've experienced are horrible anxiety and insomnia, but I'm good at hiding it. Just watch for those kinds of symptoms. My prayers are with you and your daughter. Good luck in your path of healing.

Jul 20, 2013
Keep Her Safe
by: Anonymous

I just want to say I am so sorry for your past and I'm glad you've gotten through it. Just make sure you keep your daughter safe and away from the bad crowd. I hope this was helpful and I hope the best of luck for you.

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