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Apr 03, 2009
You and your sister were so very brave to tell...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sophie, what your stepdad did to you and your sister was inexcusable. And the fact that your mother did not do anything to stop the abuse is appalling. Don't EVER believe that any of what happened was in any way your fault; because it wasn't your fault. The blame is entirely with your stepdad, and yes, your mother for not acting to protect you and your sister from harm. I do hope your stepdad faces a suitable sentence for his crimes against you both.

The fact that you both were so brave and told your school counsellor ultimately led to a safe place for the two of you. I am SO happy about that. You and your sister have SO MUCH to be proud of. And because of what you both had to endure, you have a very close bond. Stay bonded with her, Sophie. The two of you can be a tremendous support for one another as teenagers. And as time goes by, that support will carry with you well into adulthood.

As for not speaking with your mother, you need time, Sophie. Time to process what happened to you and the role your mother played in it. Whatever her reasons for siding with him rather than her daughters, she betrayed and abandoned you when you needed her most. That's what you're feeling the effects of right now. And right now you need to concentrate on yourself. If it's at all possible, counselling would be a very good idea, because talking to a counsellor about what this did to you can help you better cope with the effects. And as you get better at coping, and as your mother deals with her own stuff (and she does have her own stuff to deal with) then perhaps the two (or three) of you can sit down and discuss the whole thing. It may well be too soon to do that now. Take things slow if that's what works best for you and your sister. Give yourself time and permission to heal.

Thank you, for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Apr 06, 2009
great
by: Anonymous

wow, thats great. i wish everyone will tell....So proud of you

Apr 07, 2009
Thank you
by: Anonymous

I'm sure that your life story will be very inspirational for others who find themselves in similar situations. Not many people have the courage that you possess. Thank you for sharing.

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