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Apr 13, 2010
Simone:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

While parents have the right in the USA to spank their children (must to my disgust, since I consider hitting a child in any which way or form as unacceptable) they do NOT have the right to kick or hurt their child. Please tell someone. Consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Apr 13, 2010
you probably might not want this suggestion
by: Anonymous

Have you ever considered fighting back? I know it's a crazy idea because they're your parents and it's the last thing on your mind, but fighting back can be a sign of maturity, that you're not going to take this kind of abuse no more. Or, the next time they swing at you, duck, dodge it, avoid every blow they throw at you until they give up. I they try to hold you down, run away. The more they try to hurt you, the more you resist.......like I said, you might not like this suggestion

From Darlene: It's a VERY risky suggestion that can lead to even more harm...I know from personal experience: My father beat me to a pulp when I challenged him so many years ago.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Apr 13, 2010
Make calls & get yourself out of there
by: Mac

Precious soul! Make those calls, & get yourself out of that mess. Proud of you for taking the courage to tell someone by sharing on here.First step! Keep us posted. Make those calls darlene mentioned to u. Call the local advocacy center for help also. You do not need to stay in that environment.The longer you're in it, the longer it's gonna take to work tru all those abuse issues & get yourself totally free from the damages. I know all too well, from the abuse I went tru. Don't give up, & get out of that mess & don't look back. Keep you in thoughts & prayers. Reovery is a life time journey into hope, & the life u deserve full of the good stuff in life, appropriate love,etc.

Apr 14, 2010
The sooner, the better...Darlene is right!
by: Anonymous

Simone, what your "parents" did to you is not punishment; in fact, it is really abuse and your abusers are really sick and twisted in their own ways of thinking; in fact, you really should've been loved and cherished. They certainly didn't deserve to have such a beautiful, wonderful daughter like you, but most of all, you certainly didn't deserve to have such cruel, sick, twisted, ruthless parents, so the sooner you tell someone about it, the better. Darlene is right. Simone, please tell someone you really trust until they will finally listen to you and help you.

Apr 14, 2010
2010 it is still hard to believe Parents are allowed hit their children.
by: maurice

Simone 2. I find it almost intollerable to understand that Parents in the states and in some countries still are given rights to spank/beat or corporally punish their innocent and vunerable children: 2010 especially when there is so much spoken about child abuse in the states and throughout the world. Darlene sure has put it clearly in her comment to you. Simone 2. you do not deserve such spankings, hittings, or beating even if they are your parents. You are aware that your parents are not the only one's who punish is such a manner. Your carpool Lady is right it is abuse for parents to hit their children. I hope your sharing it with your friends will help you. But Simone 2 trust a teacher, a school counsellor, or an adult you TRUST. A counsellor will help you make a real sense so that in time the effects of such degrading punishments will not have long term effects on you. Simone 1 be active and alive with your peers/friends/class mates in team sports and cultural activities in your school and community. I am sure once your parents realize that you will be showering with your team mates they will cease beating you and leaving bruise and marks on you. It might be a safeguard for you. Do your best not for their sakes but for your own, study hard, work hard, remeber the good results are for your benefit not theirs. Don't give them the opportunity to put you down. I know the finacial side of your parents may not be great so do your best with what you have. Always believe in yourself. be safe, have a real friend that you can share your feelings with other than a boyfriend. A true friend is a precious and special jewel to journey with. I gather from your story you have such a friend or friends. having someone you can relate your intimate feelings with is a must for all of us Simone 2. live well, laugh alot, love much. OK

Apr 14, 2010
many of us were spanked too
by: Scott Canada

Hi Simone 2. I know how you feel. Spankings happened to me growing up too and they hurt, and not just the outside but on the inside too.

When I was a kid spankings were given to children by all sorts of adults that weren't our parents. Myself, I got punished this way in school and it was devastating that a teacher could do it to me in class, and remove my clothes to do it(bare bottom).
It bothered me for years so much so that I found this site and told. I shared my story as embarrassing as it was but it felt great telling someone, even through tears and not wanting to hit that send button. Finally I told!

My best friend that same year at around 7 years old was also given a spanking by that same teacher, but in private. That was also done bare bottom and I had to watch. These punishments were way more that a just a couple of smacks and the teacher would take us over her lap and do it for a long time.
* This was life in elementary school for me*.

I agree with Darlene that there is no place for physical violence "spanking" in our homes or school...Kicking and beating a child is child abuse and that is that.
Some think spanking isn't abuse and that's the way grown ups thought back in the old days, so much so that it was allowed in school in public and no one cared. It wasn't even hidden away or done in private.

Spanking may be legal but that doesn't make it right or fair. -Kicking and beating a child is not legal and not acceptable. You are not alone Simone2. Keep talking about it, it helps. Be well, be safe.


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