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Jan 19, 2010
Shay:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. Obviously, your mother doesn't know what she's talking about. I suggest you look into what resources are available to you in your local area. Start by reporting what Richard did to you, and then find out if there are any victim resources available to you.

Please Note: I have a strict policy that does not permit the inclusion of email addresses in story submissions or comments, which is why I removed yours from your story, Shay. I've adopted this policy in order to ensure the safety of all who visit my site. If anyone wants to leave you a comment, they'll have to do so using the comment page attached to this story page. I thank you for your understanding.

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Jan 19, 2010
A willing enabler for a mother...and a vicious beater for a stepfather
by: Anonymous

Shay, your so-called parents are wrong. You are not stupid; you are smart. You are not worthless; you are worthy of love and respect. That is so mean that your mother refuses to protect you. You are not to blame. Your "parents" are the adults; you were the child. Oh, and I don't hate you; in fact, I love you. Please tell someone you really trust. you can also try counselling. Be brave, Shay, and stay strong.

Jan 20, 2010
For you, my buddy, who reached out in pain
by: Mark

Shay,
I'm VERY sorry you were abused. It brought me to tears to read your story and all the horrible ways you were abused, because I KNOW that pain. I have also been abused. All your feelings of loneliness and confusion and worthlessness - they hurt like HELL. Believe me, I've been there.
You and I share that bond, so you're my buddy now, Shay. I hope my comments below help you, because I love you and I want you to get better.
You are NOT alone, Shay. I've read that 1 out of 6 boys have been sexually abused; physical, verbal, and emotional abuse are even more common. Read some of Darlene's webpages - what happened to you has happened to countless others. Rememeber, though, that because it happens a lot doesn't make it okay. NO ONE has any right to hurt you, buddy. NO ONE.
You may not know it yet, but you are a VERY strong and brave man. I can tell by your story. It takes real STRENGTH to live through abuse. It's true; think about it for a moment. Imagine you're having the same bad day as a "normal" person. Difficult enough, isn't it? Now add in the crushing weight of abuse. Feels ten times worse, doesn't it? For an abused person to live through the normal trials any day can bring takes a LOT of strength, and YOU do that EACH AND EVERY DAY!
You are also VERY brave, buddy. You're right - it IS embarrassing to write about painful and private experiences, even anonymously. But you DID, and that's how I KNOW you're brave. Do you know how many people out there still lack the courage to tell about their abuse? I still can't! See, buddy? You're braver than I am!
I want you to know I'm VERY proud of you, Shay. This world is a better place with you in it. Find the help you need, buddy. Look up websites, contact crisis hotlines, ask police or doctors or hospitals or religious officials where to get help. Call a few counseling centers at random and ask if they can help you, or refer you to someone who can. I'm SURE the help you need is out there. You WILL find it.
I'll be thinking about you a lot, and praying for your healing. You are a GOOD man. Hang in there.
I love you, Shay.
Your buddy,
Mark

Jan 25, 2010
shay -
by: holly ; from new zealand.

we do believe you shay.
who could focus on school and other stuff
when this was happening to you ?
men do touch boys, your 'mother' is wrong.
im sorry that this happened to you shay x

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