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Dec 07, 2010
Shannon:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You need professional help with this. And there is no doubt in my mind that you need to distance yourself from your family so that you can find your path toward healing and recovery, because there is no talking to them. This is about your mental and physical health. It's not about them. You don't deserve to continually be mistreated by your family. I was faced with a similar decision many years ago. I choose to get healthy. I believe you'll have to make the same choice. Severing your relationship with them may well be the healthiest thing you can do for both yourself and your son. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Dec 08, 2010
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Shannon, what your so-called parents did to you was pathetic and ungrateful because they are twisted, warped, confused and cruel in their own ways of thinking. I am also just as disgusted by your so-called mom's reaction towards her slimy husband raping you; I hate women who choose men over their own children because children should always come first. They didn't deserve to have such a beautiful daughter like you; you didn't deserve to have such a disgusting pig of a father; you didn't deserve to have such a twisted, sadistic mother who, sadly, took pleasure in calling you "b****" and was not thinking right; you deserved to have loving parents who would love you, nurture you, cherish you and protect you from harm. They need help, but you need help too, so the sooner you tell someone you trust, the better. Counselling and therapy also helps.

Dec 08, 2010
I'll be the winner : I will be fine: I will Love myself enough to get help:
by: maurice

Shannon stop carrying your dark days into today: Stop NOW: out of my love, care and concern for you I give you that order STOP HURTING YOURSELF: None of what has happened to you was your fault (ever) Your Family are not a true family: Your Mother should be ashamed of herself: ran away from you instead of protecting you from that beast: You had no chance once your mother ignored what he was doing to you at 3 years of age: Shannon running away can be a winner for you now: Your future living of your life is in your own hands: Distance yourself from your family: begin to live your own life apart: Make your own friends: It will take courage but I would say you have plenty of that: You want someone to love you so you can tell them all tha awful horrific things that has happened you since you were 3 years of age: Shannon it will take time and courage but you'll be the winner over your family: Your life is in your destiny now: Live it to the full: Make real friends who will stand by you: stand up with you and for you: won't let your family all Bad Ba'''rds hurt you any more: change your life style, your daily routine, build up your self esteem: I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH it: you are young and beautiful: gifted/tallented, SPECIAL: get taking part with others your own age and gender in sporting and cultural activities: walking.climbing just begin mixing to give you confidence: let your motto be I will: I can: I must etc: nothing like taking part with others in team sports it will give you a freedom of expressing yourself that you'll find empowering you: you'll make real and true friends for life: Darlene knows best so as she had to do build up her own believe and inner strength and take back her power: Look at her now empowering the likes of you, me and all her many visitors in her genuine persoanl heart feeling words in her comments: Look in that mirror and say I love me: This is my new day and I am going to make it the best for the rest of my life: Letting go you must because none of what heppened to you was of your making: Those bad baddies did all the abuse on you:

Dec 08, 2010
Distancing myself from family
by: Shannon

Thank you Darlene. You are atleast the 5th or 6th person to give me the same advice - distance myself from my family. I continue to try to get distance from them all the time...I have been successful with many members. My Mother though...she tracked me down even after I moved away, changed phone numbers and email addresses...turns out she is a licensed private investigator (who knew!?) and she showed up at my apt. recently right in the middle of a domestic situation and wouldn't leave without me and my son...my family sucked me right back in for about 6 days and tried to take all my control away from my life again....I had to lie in order to get a ride back to my home because my mother wouldn't take me back. Life is really stressful now because what do you do when you don't want to be found and you can still be found anyways??? I feel violated that I can be investigated by my own mother. There is no escape.

Thank you for your feedback though. I started seeing a really fantastic sexual assault councellor about 9 weeks ago, who empowers me and makes me feel like I can take control back. Time heals all wounds I suppose...I just need more!

Shannon

From Darlene - Webmaster: Shannon, my family always knew where I was and could always find me, but I stood firm about who I would and would not see. Before you can get to that place though, you must deal with the why behind needing them in the first place. Until that happens, distancing will not happen. I wish you and your son all the best.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Dec 08, 2010
Shannon,
by: KT

You're not a victim anymore, you're a survivor.
You will survive, you did survive.

My heart breaks for your abuse and the lack of love and simple consideration all humans should get.

You've been diagnosed you can have a strong productive life with counseling and the right meds, I wish nothing but wonderful things for you.

Dec 08, 2010
You will do what is best for you and your Son:
by: maurice

Your in a good space right now Shannon: Darlene has given you two good reasons to challenges; you are intelligent: you'll do what is best for you and your Son: Only when YOU decide who you want to help you: the 4/5 others or Darlene: I can re-assure you if you listen to Darlene you'll have the courage to do what is right for you and your son: If you don't bother to makes sense well I guess you and your mind will drift between all 6 and Darlene: Your Son is your inner belief in yourself: You are intelligent: Now, please make one real sense of Darlene: You will be a winner for yourself and your Son:

Dec 09, 2010
Thank you
by: Shannon

Thank you all so much. It feels great to read the things everyone is saying - my family always tells me to get over it if I talk about anything from my child hood. I don't blame them - my siblings don't really know what it's like to be abused, as I took the brunt of it all from both parents & the step father. But still - it's nice to know there are people out there who understand.

Every day of my life lately is spent trying to make the right choices for my son. I'm so nervous about every decision I make though, that I'm unsure about everything. Time... thank you all. : )

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