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Jan 30, 2008
You are STILL being victimized...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Savannah, you said that this 26-year-old is your lover; you are being sexually abused by this man! You may think you love this ex-best friend of your stepdad's, but he's molesting you every bit as much as your stepdad did; only you don't recognize it.

The state of Texas has laws that make it illegal for an adult to engage in sexual relations with someone who is only 16. He could, and should, go to jail for what he is doing to you! He's taking advantage of your youth, your vulnerability and your inability to understand what is happening to you. If the man you call your boyfriend really and truly loved and cared about you, he would help you to get away from your stepdad by using appropriate methods, methods that DON'T include engaging in sex with you. At 16, you are not in a position to consent to having sex with this man.

The best thing that could happen right now is for this molesting relationship to end and for someone to report BOTH your stepdad AND the 26-year-old for sexual assault.

Savannah, you're worth so much more than settling for what this man is offering you. You are worth so much more than a man who has sex with a minor under the guise of helping her get away from another sexually abusive environment.

You'll probably argue with me on this one, but I stand firm about this advice. At some point in your future adult life, you'll come to realize that what I'm saying here is absolutely correct. I'm hoping that it won't take that long. I'm hoping that what I'm telling you prompts you to take action and get yourself away from this sex offender cloaked as a supportive friend. It's the most loving thing you could possibly do for yourself.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 30, 2008
Think I'm gonna' faint...
by: Francine

OMG your stepdad is a pervert! I'm so sorry!

Jan 31, 2008
OMG!
by: LaSeanda

I am sorry that that happened to you. I am 16 also and about 3 monthts ago had a miscarriage by my ex fiancee and when I told him that I was he didn't want to have anything to do with me for a long time he never txtd or called. Come to find out he was havoing sex with his ex g/f (the mother of his daughter I might add) and I broke up with him. My mom was so excited that I was pregnant but she really liked HIM too but after all that she hated him. I am soooo sorry that they did that to you. xoxox LaSeanda

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Feb 03, 2008
STUPID!
by: Candace

Look I know you have been through alot but we all have problems. but you are so dealing with them the wrong way. Instead of having sex with your lil pervert boyfriend and getting knocked up why dont you go to college and try to make your life as normal as possible. from the sounds of it you havnt had it easy or had a nice enviroment so i think you should call the police and tell them everything. i can understand if you dont want to tell on your "boyfriend" but you need to drop that shit like a hot potatoe.

***Comment edited by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster***

To Candace: Please refrain from passing judgment in your comments to people who have had the courage to disclose the abuse they are dealing with; these forums are intended as a soft place for them to land. If you can't be respectful, then perhaps you shouldn't comment. I strongly urge you to read my Do's and Don't page for what is considered acceptable and unacceptable in these forums. I thank you for your understanding.

Feb 05, 2008
This sounds familar
by: Kelly

this 26 year old is no better than your dad, kind of like the wolf in sheeps clothing? i think you might want to concentrate on finding out what the future holds for you before the present makes plans for you. PS. My first child was born when i was 15 (i speak from exprience)
-Sincerely,
Kelly

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To Kelly: Inclusion of ANY personal information such as email addresses and phone numbers are STRICTLY prohibited on this site. If it happens again, I will have no choice but to consider you to be a predator and I will subsequently ban you from making additional comments.

Feb 15, 2008
sweeite
by: Megan

When I was your age I got with a much older male I had no idea what I was getting sucked into. I ended up in a horrible physical abusive situation. It took a long time to get out and I missed very important things during high school (cheering my senoir year, homecoming party, graduation party and senoir week with my friends) I missed this because he was so much older and didn't want to be a part of these things. I am 24 now and I have a 2 year old daughter. Still to this day I have to see a therapist. My advice to you is stick with your friends they will get you through this. Dont let the "boyfriend" make you miss out on things that are important to you.. Pray often cry when you need to...

Mar 09, 2008
candance isnt my name
by: candace

I saw a comment by some girl named "Candance" and it was the worst thing i ever heard. My real name is Sienna and i wrote the story about being molested by my dad. I'm not the same person who wrote that comment on Savannah's story. I changed my name because I was scared of being discovered. I'll use my real name from now on and whoever this Candace girl is, it's not me. I'm sorry for what happened to you Savannah. It breaks my heart.

Mar 09, 2008
I'm so sorry
by: Sienna

I just wrote a comment replying to a comment that was made by a girl who called herself Candace but that wasn't me. I just wrote this like an hour ago but I just want for anybody reading these comments to know that this "Candace" who wrote " we all have problems, deal with it" is not me. My name is Sienna and that's what I will call myself from now on. My dad molested me when I was 14. He had always been such a great friend. I'm now 16 and on antidepressants. I can't get it out of my mind. He asks me for hugs everyday and I just feel so awful and dirty when I give him a hug. I feel like a whore. I'm 16 and I still have a long time until I can move out of the house but the only reason I remember him molesting me when I was 14 is because my little sister who is my best and only friend who means the world to me is almost the age that I was when papa molested me. I don't blame him, he was emotionally unstable as was my mother because of my brother's autism. I feel that I can't keep on reading these stories without giving these victims at least a response. I feel horrible. And even though it wasn't me, whoever this "candace" person was who commented on savannah's story is, I feel bad. I'm so sorry Savannah, I wish I could tell you in person how awful your experience was and how real it was, but you're a thousand miles away from me. From a Canadian to a Texan abuse victim, I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Mar 09, 2008
To Sienna:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I believe you, Sienna. I realize you are not the same Candace who wrote the judgmental comments of Feb 3/08 to Savannah. Your comments to Savannah (and others on this site) have been very supportive. Keep up the good work!

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Mar 25, 2009
Don't be fooled
by: Maurice

Savanna Short and brief your friendship/relationship Love for this 26 year old friend of your stepdad may seem right for you now to trust your deepest feelings to etc. I beg you to think again your 16 years, he is 10 years older and maybe a dringing buddy of your stepdad who's to say he's not feeding back those feelings to his friend your stepdad. You've been hur badly physically bruised and battered all over your tender body. you need professional help and support and real friends. Be honest with yourself Shavaana. be true to yourself, you're a beautiful 16 years of age young thinking adult. All male friends may not be the best to be relating or trusting right now. You need a Mother. Aunt, Female friends your own age and older. You have been brave to write to Darlene site. Please read and heed her professional words of affirmation and support. I had read your story
before reading reading Darlene's comment, My immediate re-action in my reading of your story this does not seem right, it sucks of danger for you you. Don't be hurt anymore.

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