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May 31, 2010
Sarah:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Go with your heart, Sarah; and seek out some counselling to help you deal with this. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 31, 2010
You need to take action
by: Mike

You should go to a counselor or therapist first, explain the whole story, and they will help you tell your fiance and help you deal with the memories and past abuse. You also need to report the abuser because it's almost certain that he is abusing someone else now. They very seldom stop until they get help.

Jun 01, 2010
Sisterly TRUE LOVE is empowering of togetherness
by: maurice

Sarah5. you have been given loving heartfelt comments from Darlene and Mike: Both encouarageing you to get and receive help: Me and my sister are very close that is re-assuring Sarah5> You know her abuser, you know her touching of you all you really need to do is put both in perspective: Naturally her abuser did her an injustice and was totally wrong: He molested her: Has she told you if she has effects of what happened to her in her innocence and vunerable years: As Darlene put it to you, she is gentle and sensitive to you in asking you to go with your heart: Sarah 5, you are an intelligent young woman/lady. you seem to have a caring fiance, who will understand all you share with him concerning your heartfelt feelings for your sister: Your parents seemed not to have loved and cherished you both enough so that you could trust them and tell onwho abused her: Think about what Mike said in that respect Sarah5. Hi speak with a counsellor who will put everything in perspective for you: Then you'll be brave enough to go with your heart: I know many sisters like you both: I dare'nt go between them when they stand up for each other: They keep no secrets from each other, even there parents are one with them being so: They were like that all their lives and now in the twenties they sure genuinely watch out for each other: It is ever so naturally real: If only all families could follow in there example> So Sarah5 it is music to my ears to know you and your sister are close: You'll be fine, you'll do what is right for both of you, don't be upsetting yourself too much: Don't force anything just take one step at a time: Speaking with a counsellor being the first step the sunwill shine for you after that: You are a loving caring person, Hi start having a healthy mind in a healthy body, widen your horizons and get out there with lioke-minded women like yourself and your peer group, taking part in sporting and cultural activities: Oh yes I am a believer this is a great way forward after abuse: Fresh way of beginning to trust others doing what makes you healty mind and body: You'll make good friends and have loads of aquaintances for life: Nothing like togetherness in team sports: All for one and for all: Hi sure it might be the right thing for you and your sister: Off that bottom of yours TODAY if you are not already fully alive, fully active and enthuastic about living your life to the full: Ah sure you fiance might be the lazy type too, get him of his bottom with you: Always believe in yourself

Jun 05, 2010
sometimes love is not enough
by: Chanelle

Dear Sarah5,
I cannot imagine what it is like being torn between love for your sister and the need for closure and healing...
Sadly, sometimes love is not enough to bring healing...
It sounds really intricate and complex....so many mixed emotions...
I hope that you acquire the inner peace and clarity to be true to yourelf in finding closure and healing in a way that still enables you to maintain your bond with your sister, if you so wish...
all the best to you,
Chanelle

Aug 13, 2010
a change in feelings...
by: Sarah5

I have not yet gone to therapy, or told my fiance... I'm so scared to talk to him about it... and now I am feeling a disconnect from my sister.. she has contacted me over the last couple weeks to have dinner, but I feel like I need to distance myself... I don't want to be around her... I don't know what to do... all I can think about is that she did something to me, and she ruined my happy life... do I be up front and ask her if she remembers what she did to me? I am so confused... I don't want to hurt my parents by coming out with this... but I feel like I am pulling away from everyone because I don't know how to deal with it...

Aug 14, 2010
If you don't succeed at first, try, try, again
by: maurice

I have missed my friends here on Darlene's site these past few weeks as I was preparing to move house and was very busy and lonesome: I was not in a good space to open up the site: But now I have arrived at my new house: 3 days ago, settling in so I am back with a trusting caring group of people who make me feel good each time I visit and read and share my feelings: Already this morning I have spent over an hour feeling good: Hi Sarah 5 after that intro: I sincerely and genuinely hope you are closer now to bring closure and moved on: If you acted on Darlene's loving heartfelt words; encourageing on the best way forward for you then I am happy for you: You still have my encoureing loving caring words from my last comment: Live well: Laugh alot: Love much: ( beginning with yourself in front of the mirror) say all the loving affirming words to yourslef: hug and love yourself in the mirror: Era go on sure there is only you there: I do it still at 64: I'm Special and I love me:

Aug 14, 2010
Don't wait
by: Mike

You need to talk to a counselor. Don't even worry yourself about talking to your husband. Talk to a counselor first and they will help you talk to your husband. Don't keep putting it off. This is something that needs to be dealt with now. The longer you wait, the harder it will be. Talk to a counselor, or call a hotline now not later.

You have nothing to be ashamed of, nothing to be guilty of, but a lot to worry about, and a professional will help you deal with your worries.

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