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Mar 15, 2009
A deranged uncle...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sarah, allow me to pass along my condolences over the loss of your mother.

I'm very glad you told someone at school and that they didn't let you go home to such an unsafe, horrific environment. It does seem as though you were targeted by your aunt and uncle. If you haven't already read my article on this site about that subject, you might find it interesting. You'll find it at Why Parents Target a Specific Child for Abuse. And while it is titled about parents, much of it can apply to caregivers as well.

But regardless of the reasons this man (and I use the term loosely; he was no man, in my view) was viciously cruel to you, (and there are no good reasons) there was something mentally wrong with him—and your aunt, for allowing this brutal mistreatment to go on in the first place. Deranged is the word that comes to mind. He physically tried to kill you, he tried to convince you that you were to blame for your mother's death in an effort to emotionally destroy you, he took away any semblance of happiness you might have. And he taught his own children to do the same. He deserves to be in prison for what he did, and so does your aunt.

I do hope you are now in some form of therapy in order to help you deal with all the emotional turmoil. You are so worth that kind of help, Sarah. You are NOT worthless. You are NOT unlovable. You are NOT responsible for any of what happened to you. The blame lies solely on his shoulders. You ARE lovable. You ARE worthy of love and dignity and respect. You did NOT deserve to be mistreated. You deserved love and nurturing. Love and nurture yourself enough to get the help you need, Sarah.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 16, 2009
to Sarah
by: Exanimis

You said that he had threatened to set you on fire and then told you to go get matches. I don't think that most people would understand that you went to get them and brought them to him, but I do. When you live in constant fear, sometimes it would have been easier to have died. Those people took everything they could away from you, that's what abusers do. I hope that you find peace in your life.

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