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Sep 16, 2009
Here you never need to apologize for what you've been through and how you have to get it out...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sara, I don't see your thoughts as jumbled; I see them as finding their way to the surface. Keep writing, and talk to someone you trust. Not your mother, but a friend or better yet, a counsellor if that's at all possible. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. And feel free to share more if you'd like.

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Sep 16, 2009
A true friend is worth her/his giftedness to be.
by: maurice

Sara 3, Ask yoursefl the question Do I have another human being whom I relate all my innermost thoughts and being to. if I have then I am the most blessed and luckiest person in the whole world. Call that person FRIEND. Sara3 Darlene has offered you loving and supportive words of empowerment. Take heed of them, she puts you well written story in perspective for you. She is saying to you I don't see your thoughts as jumbled, I see them as finding their way to the surface. You've begun sharing out your inner feelings here on darlene's site. A great place to begin letting out all your 18 years of confused but real and natural feelings going on inside you. Now you are beginning to talk about them in order to make sense of them all for you. That Friend I mention above is the most important person for you to have in your life right now. This person is outside your natural boy/girl relationships and your family. Someone who will listen to you, respect and value you in all you trust them with confidentially. They will help you have a greater appreciation of your feelings. There fine, you're fine. all will be well for you. You now are beginning to put an adult view of all you've journeyed through up to now in your life. Your father or mother seem to have let you on your own to make sense of all they were relating to you. They abused you emotionally, playing on your innocent mind telling you things that you were too young to understand or make sense of. As Darlene suggests maybe if you can talk with a Counsellor or therapist you would make real sense of all you've written in your story to darlene and her visitors. We all value you, respect you, love you, for the beautiful and wonderful person you are NOW. Love yourself, have one or two very close friends who will value you, respect you and love you walk with them calling them your true friends. You will more than likely be in and out of relationships but these two will stick by you no matter what. Always believe in yoursefl, keep things simple and you will find easier sollutions to many of your feelings. Don't complicate them any more than you have to. Put all your past confused state of mind as a growing time in your life. A learning time now as you have begun bringing them to the surfice to make a real sense of the, . Build up your self worth, self esteem and begin havinga good mirror image of yoursefl. Think positive, act positive, be positive in all you think and say about yourself. It works wonders, rid yoursefl of the negative feelings about yoursefl. I can, I will, I must just for me. I'M SPECIAL, I LOVE ME,

Sep 16, 2009
Sounds like me
by: Scott Canada

Hi Sara, back in 77-80,when I was in Jr. High I was alot like you. I spent all of grade 8 completely disconnected. I would daydream and disappear class after class until I had teachers asking me whats wrong. "Are there problems at home?" I wouldn't tell them anything. I knew it would only cause more insanity at home. My home life made no sense. My father made absolutely no sense. He made a fool of himself everytime he spoke or moved or breathed. I couldn't stand the sight of him. I hated that man.I was a dark, brooding kid with much rage and hate. Why would teachers and others turn me into that? I was a good kid, a good guy. I am a good guy! Father spent so many years twisting my brain that I think I just snapped. I couldn't take the pressure. I believe I was close suicide then. Or killing that man. I used to beat my fists against the trees to rip my knuckles off. At that point in my life I hadn't even began to deal with the abuse I suffered at school when I was little.
I believe its stress that caused me to disconnect. I lost all of grade 8. On the repeat of that grade I went into drugs and alcohol. That habit followed me into trade school where I almost failed first year. I began to shape up after that.
It is stress I believe that made me disappear from the crowded world around me. Drift off into the clouds. I still cant tell you where I went. Maybe I lost my mind.
Like you I have relationship problems. I dont trust people and dont believe what they are saying unless I can prove them to be real. Its hard to go with the flow when I'm so judgmental. All my life I have compared what I was doing to what others were doing. Since I was little.
My teacher was giving me bare bottom spankings in class for doing things that the other children were doing freely.
My brother threatened to kill my father, got away with it. When I did it I got the living daylights kick out of me. I get a speeding ticket when others freely tare down the road.
I got reported for having an un-kept yard when many of my neighbors have the same mess and you cant even see my yard from the road.
So many things make no sense. I dont know if anything I wrote will help you Sara, but maybe it will show you that your not alone. Your weird thoughts perhaps a coping mechanism. We are shaped by our world.

Sep 18, 2009
you are strong
by: Anonymous

I felt that way so many times but your only fault is that you've allowed these events to alter your life's mental state you said you are your mothers backbone but who or what is holding you up?

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