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Jun 30, 2011
S:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's understandable that you would have difficulty getting through that horrific event. You were essentially drugged with enough alcohol to have died of alcohol poisoning, and then you were raped by a sick excuse of a human being; all when you were just a little girl. Of course this would be haunting for you. When I've had difficulty getting through some of my more horrific memories, I've found that the tools and resources I learned from my therapist (from when I was a much younger woman) helped me immensely. One, recognize that the abuse is no longer happening and that you are now in a safe place. Two, it's the thoughts you are attaching to what happened that are keeping you victimized because it's no longer happening; in other words, you are re-living the event over and over and over again, many more times than it actually happened. Three, allow yourself to fully feel the rage and hostility, the betrayal and abandonment that you feel for the creep that did this to you and all the people who weren't there for you, REALLY feel it completely and utterly. Allow yourself to experience the emotions to their fullest. If that means crying and crying, then so be it. If that means screaming at the top of your lungs, then go for it. If that means punching something (like a soft pillow), then have at it. Just allow all those feelings to rise to the surface and express them in an appropriate way, meaning don't harm yourself or others. When I followed these three steps, the rage and hostility and all the emotions finally let me go. Perhaps the same can help you, S. Consider seeking out some form of counselling for yourself, someone who has experience with sexual abuse situations. Just know that you are worthy of that kind of help. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 30, 2011
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

S, I can't believe that your mom would abandon you to the so-called care of that sick monster of a sister and her slimy, sadistic friends (yes, even your molester of a cousin is no better) and allow them to beat, rape, drug and berate you everyday...how dare she! That's not even babysitting; that's just torture...and I'm sure that your dad would love to have custody of you since you had been so close to him. If they didn't want to be there, then they should've had the courage to leave and send your dad to pick you up instead of sadistically abusing you. The path that they chose for themselves was inexcusable...and they should go to prison for all those sadistic crimes that they committed against you because you did nothing wrong. Oh, and forcing you to drink alcohol (and sadistically beating your face in their process), raping you, laughing at you for walking gingerly as a result of being raped and even making jokes about it really shows me how uneducated and ignorant they really are. You are not to blame for their sadistic, cowardly, ignorant behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse and offend you. you were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you, so please tell someone you really trust and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you. Oh, and please look into reporting those sadistic beasts to prison.

Jul 01, 2011
I'll be the winner : I will be fine: I will Love myself enough to get help:
by: maurice

S: I WILL LOVE MYSELF ENOUGH TO GET HELP: I will: I Can: I must because I am WORTH it: This is the happy turning on your lifes journey S: Darlene has spoken from her heart to YOU: who me??? yes YOU S: read her comment slowly, read in between the lines feel in your heart what she is ever so naturally saying to you: She knows best: She know the best way forward for you: I'll be a winner: I will be fine: That's my brave and courageous fellow visitor of abuse to Darlene's site: You sure are intellegent, you related your story naturally, truthfully, exactly as it happened to you: Darlene said what you were doing: Let GO S. act on her loving encourageing advice: My motto: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: yes S>S>S because I am WORTH it. you get the message from Darlene, Anonymous and me lovingly given because we want what is the best for you in your life from the NOW time of your life: Learn from Darlene to let go of your past: Live your life to the full in the NOW time so that your future will be brighter than you can imagine: Dream your dreams, make the difference knowing you will be a winner over those sad, sad abusive individuals who did ruin your childhood years for you: I was not to blame: The effects are deep S> Darlene has given you the means of letting them go: So when you read her comment again Think Positive: Act positive: Be positive and forgive my vulgar way of putting this Pee away the negative flush it down the toilet: Be gentle and kind on yourself S: My motto: High look in the mirror there is one very brave, courageous, beautiful, gorgeous, gifted; tallented, special ME looking out at you: Now S. HUG and Cuddle that ME, don't be shy, don't be embarrassed, to think me silly for asking you: You'll feel really good after it: Do it often: You'll be a winner: You'll be fine: I will love myself enough to get HELP in the form of counselling and surrounding myself with lovinmg caring friends my own age and gender: Oh, I almost forgot: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body actually from what Darlene suggested maybe joining a boxing club would do you a power of good: Join a team, and take part in sporting and cultural activities: my motto

Jul 12, 2011
Child abuse.
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry S. I know what it is to be abused and my heart goes out to you.

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