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Dec 01, 2009
You already HAVE won...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Riles, doing what you're doing is EXACTLY how you stop him. You can't stop what he's already done, but you can move forward when you realize, really realize, that what he did to you he can no longer do to you. You survived! THAT'S the greatest gift you could have given yourself. Keep being you, keep helping others, keep being the person you know you are. Doing so means that YOU have won. And when you find yourself unable to go it alone, then seek out some help. You're certainly worth it. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Dec 01, 2009
keep looking to future
by: kristen

Hi Riles,
I can relate to some of your story. The well off life that from the outside looks like the perfect family.
Just look to the future
kristen

Dec 01, 2009
He wins no more
by: Karen W

Sweetie, you have taken control. You are not his victim anymore. As long as you have the strength to stand up and say "This is what he did to me" he cannot be your abuser. You are now a survivor!!! Be proud of that. You can be a true inspiration to other young men this has happened to.

Dec 02, 2009
no more.....
by: christina

you have found what seems to help you fight back, to fight the fear, and the abuse, but hunnie, i am 23 years old and until i opened up and let it all out, i didnt really feel normal...now that i have opened up, i found this web sight,day in and day out, it helps me go on, i read about abuse just as you and i, and it is what gives me the strength and encouragement to push on even tho there is nothing that i can change or fix about the past....of course the fear is still very real, the nightmares still come, slowley but surely i am becoming ME...just as you, i am the first one that my friends call if they need anything, they arent always there for me, but that is my way of feeling like i am good for society, is giving anyway, i have no family, they all turned their back on me when the confrontation started, but i give, i give and give, and i feel at times i am all GIVED out, and then i get angry, i have developed a horrible temper, cuz at the end of the day, i still feel abused, used, stepped on, and destroyed, and then i read a story like urs and i push on, cuz somebody somewhere needs help...

Dec 02, 2009
Could he still be hurting others?
by: Mike

It sounds like you are doing well at moving on with your life and I'm happy that you are. Have you considered seeking counselling? Even if you are doing "ok", you can probably do even better if you get it out in the open. It can help you release some of the pressure.

I hope he's not hurting anyone else, but if you think there is even a chance he might be, you should report him. Sexual abuse rarely involves just 1 victim, and he has a mental problem and needs help. I know since he is your father, you probably don't want him in trouble, but if you have a younger brother, or if he has any chances to be alone with other children, there very likely will be other victims. Besides, telling someone what happened will help you get over it. You can never forget it, but you can put it behind you.

Dec 04, 2009
I am the winner, I am not going to give up on ME
by: maurice

Riles, your 24 years of age, you are living your own life hopefully to the full each day you wake up. Always believe in yourself. Letting go takes time but with a little help from a counsellor and your closest of Friend (s) you will overcome the abuse that no good father did to you. Like all abusers he never thought of the damage he was doing to you in your innocent and vunerable years. Now that you are trusting another with your story you are the winner over HIM. Build up your self esteem by having a healthy mind in a healthy body. Intergrate, join groups with sporting and cultural intersts. come active and ALIVE. Know you are gifted, know you have atributes that no one else has. get to know what you are good at and pass on your spaecialness to other. Love and Respect yourself. especially your body. be gentle and kind to it. soothe away the bad memories of what that Sicko of a father did to it. It was not my fault, don't blame yoursefl for what happened. Fear at that age you were is very normal so don't blame yourself for not telling someone. Now that you realize you should have means you are encourageing others not to have that fear, Darlene as always has given you comforting and empowering words to work with all from her heart to you Riles. I'M SPECIAL, I'M UNIQUE, THERE IS ONLY ONE RILES (THAT'S ME) I AM THE WINNER. I AM GOING TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE JUST BECAUSE I AM ME. I CAN, I WILL, I MUST, GO FOR IT RILES.

Dec 04, 2009
He did not win
by: BMW Princess

If you survived then you won Perverted child abusers never win. It may seem like they do but you are better than him.

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