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Jan 17, 2012
Rhonda:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have to do what is right for you and what will advance your healing. I learned a very long time ago that I had to distance my Self from family in order to walk along the path of healing and recovery. That is especially true if members of the family do not support your healing and recovery efforts. You hit the nail on the head when you made the comparison of being made to eat dinner with a stranger who had raped you vs your brother who had raped you. Your mother is not thinking about you; she's thinking about HER needs, HER wants. And depending on the age of your child, it's possible s/he would be at risk for sexual abuse. You see, sex offenders do not change their ways until they are made to stop. Do what you know is right for you and your child, Rhonda. And please seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with any residual effects, and to help you deal with your seemingly controlling mother. I send you love, light and positive energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 23, 2012
Brother the perpetrator
by: Anonymous

This had happened to me. I have dealt with this shame for a long time. But am at a very stressful stage of my life (age 50) with husband and 2 boys. My brother is well liked and moved away but we still are a family. You see I have never told my mother. My brother admitted to doing this and apologize when I was a young adult.This did not go any further I was too young and just wanted to forget. But as I go through life with many ups and a lot of downs this self doubt and other issues are coming forward. My younger and older sister are aware of this past, but my mother is not.. My father passed away 3 years ago and I have never told her. We have always had problems with our relationship. I am seeking help but is expensive. Do I tell but i have kept the secret so long that my children would be affected and my brother's adult son would be affected along with all my sisters kids...We also lost my baby brother 30 years ago to a drowning accident which may be why I never told back then. This comes up because we need help from my mother and she still treats me like the difficult child and treats my|brother (perpetrator) well and my 2 other sisters whom she is very close with. I not sure what to do...But AS a mature adult I know it would ruin many things..but a part of me wants to tell my mother.. but not sure that this is the answer.....Still hiding but losing my strength...

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