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Jun 12, 2010
 Rhona:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother was full of anger and hostility that she took out on you. None of this was your fault. None of her lies were or are true. The fact that she's now dead closes the chapter of continued abuse on you. It's time to open another chapter, one that takes back control of your life, one that tells yourself how truly beautiful you actually are. You said you're in "treatment"; I hope that means counselling/therapy. You didn't deserve to be called those terrible lies for names, you didn't deserve to be to horribly mistreated, you didn't deserve a mother that was so twisted in her thinking. You DO deserve help now that you have. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 12, 2010
 A mother's true love
by: Daphne

When a mother has a child, she is beautiful no matter what colour her hair is or if she has a disability. A mother's child is always perfect. This is because a mother falls in-love with her child when she's in her womb. When the child is first placed in her arms, the mother sees the beauty in God's creation. The little hands and feet, the tiny toes, the little button nose....

A mother who loves doesn't see disabilities; she sees a beautiful child. A mother who loves her child does not humiliate her and lie to her.

Your mother did not know how to love; all she knew was hate. She directed that hate at you. You spent your whole life suffering at the hands of her hatred towards the world.

Children are unable to defend themselves; they are helpless. It is sad to see anyone display hatred towards a beautiful child.

Now you are an adult. You can take that power away from your mother by learning to love yourself by changing your internal "love speak". Look in the mirror and talk to the young girl you once were. Tell her how beautiful she is and that you are taking care of her now. Therapy can help you do this and help you heal.
Jun 15, 2010
 Even animals would never treat their young so sadistically
by: Anonymous

Rhona, your mother was wrong. You are not fat; you are not ugly; you are not stupid; you are not spiteful; you are not vindictive; you are not envious; you are not unpleasant; in fact; YOU ARE NONE OF THOSE LIES THAT SHE FED TO YOU. You are beautiful, smart, kind, loving, articulate and worthy of love, dignity and respect. Your mother was really sick, twisted, cruel and sadistic in her own ways of thinking...not to mention a control freak. She certainly didn't deserve to have such a beautiful daughter like you, but most of all, you certainly didn't deserve to have such an uncaring, unloving, twisted, cruel, barbaric, animalistic, ruthless and sadistic mother. Oh, and gloating about beating and humiliating you really shows me how uneducated and ignorant she really was. She really should've known better and loved and cherished you in the first place. Oh, and nothing is your fault; in fact, she really is to blame because she had her own problems and took them all out on you. I really hope that you are in a safe place now and that you tried counselling. I am thinking of you.
Aug 03, 2010
 what happened, happened
by: eva1

Rhona, it's so great you could come out with your story. I think I know how you feel. Growing up with a mother who had all the control and then made sure it was me who'd take the all blame, has rendered me unable to control even my own thoughts. I was afraid to even THINK. I would sometimes hear my mom scream at me (in my head) and my life in general was a mess. For a very, very long time. Until I found therapy and this website.
Trust me, you are not crazy, you are traumatized. And you can heal. It will take time and effort and therapy, but it will happen. You will feel much better.
Sure, there are people, who will not believe your mother had been a hateful twisted monster towards you. After all, it is hard for some people to believe a mother can be anything but a ray of light, unless you've been there and seen otherwise. The answer to all unbelievers and judges is:
You weren't there when it was happening. You have no right to judge what I have to say about my mother.
Mar 28, 2011
 God makes no mistakes
by: BMW Princess

You are not a mistake. God makes everyone in his /her own image. you are important
Apr 02, 2013
 The dignity you still deserve
by: Anonymous

Rhona, your story is a bit like mine and I can honestly say that it's quite disturbing. That's good that you're already working to get out.

I have autism and my parents, alongside my older brother, have done absolutely nothing but tear me down. Anyway, keep on working to get out of that cycle of abuse and helplessness.

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