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Apr 23, 2010
Rachel:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing Sam's story with my visitors and me. He is blessed to have found your family, and your family is blessed to have found him. If and when Sam is ready to talk, be there to listen; otherwise, the best gift you can give Sam is to be understanding, and be who you really are. That will show him that he's loved and safe. Everything else will fall into place.

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Apr 26, 2010
Always believe in yourself:: Value and Respect your new found friend
by: maurice

Oh Rachel thank you, you sure brought out very beautifully and naturally the effects abuse has and is having on your new friend Sam. Your Family a loving, valueing and cherishing of you and now have taken into that valueing and loving Sam: Just be your beautiful natural self with him: Time will build up his knowing of your sensitivities and empathy with with him. He let you see the scars and bruises so he knows you know he was brutally abused by his father. Your Parents have told you what happened: He's aware you know and in time he will blossom out to be his true self with you and your family. LOVE will be the winner between you all in time: Allow him in his own time to mix with your friends and make friends of his own. I am sure your parents will care for his every need and maybe suggest counselling to him when he is ready for it: He is still in a very vunerable place in himself after all the horrific abuse: He feels vunerable while he gets to know you and your family so just make him feel at home with you all. You have a healthy mind in a healthy body, you take part in sporting and cultural activities in your school and with your friends: Sam then in time will join his mates being so as well. Allison, I would say he knows how lucky he is now to have you as his buddy and compannion/friend around his own age. Allison: read Darlene's loving comment to you: you will know what is best for both of you if you follow her caring and encouraging words. Always believe in yourself

Apr 27, 2010
Help him to share
by: Sweetie

He will in time be able to completely open up.
Maybe you can show him the site and tell him he can share his story without putting his name down. that may help him to get out whatever it is he holds inside about the horror he went through. I have posted my story on this site without my name and it helped me just getting it out into the world and knowing ppl have read it and gone through it, I wasn't alone and neither is he, help him realize that.

Apr 28, 2010
the diamond in the rough...
by: Ray

IT is indeed an amazing human being who can live through such things, and still remain sweet and kind. An incredibly strong person lives there, one who will surely live on to inspire others.... I once knew someone just like your friend...

Apr 30, 2010
Thank you
by: Rachel

Thank you, everyone, for your kindness and advice. I'm so thankful to have found this site and I thank God every day for bringing Sam into my life. I'm hoping that I will be able to help him, though I don't really know how. You've all helped me to see what a blessing he is.

Also, if you would pray for his nightmares, I would be very appreciative. Thank you for everything!

May 01, 2010
What a friend he has in you
by: maurice

Your the best Rachel, great our comments helped. Darlene sure knows now the benefit of her site to each of her visitors. She's our comforter, our advser, our help, our shield from further being abused or being effected by abuse if we take ownership of her professional and heartfelt words of love and encouragement. Her site is a God's send, I surely will pray for Sam. For you and your loving, caring, understanding family. Amen, so be it, Alleluia

May 24, 2010
sweet.
by: time bandit

dear rachael,
your family sounds so sweet for taking in an abused child like sam,especially one who's been as severely abused as sam has.Just keep showing him love and kindness.When and "IF"SAM is ready to talk like darlene said be their to listen with a full ear and non judgemental heart.Sam needs all the prayers and love and support he can get at this time.

Mar 10, 2012
Try talking to him
by: Zeke D

Hey Rachel. I was brought up similar to how Sam was. I was adopted by a family when I was 14. I'm 19 now, and my younger sister is 16. I didn't really open up until about 6 months after I was adopted. They put me in therapy, and that helped a lot. My sister liked talking to me about her day when she got home from school. She was 11, so I don't think she understood where I came from, but it was comforting just talking to her about random stuff. It was actually harder talking to my adoptive parents for a while because I knew they knew what happened to me.
Anyway, it's probably been a while since you wrote this, so I hope things worked out.

Mar 14, 2012
Thanks :)
by: Rachel

Thanks Zeke. I'm so glad you're doing better. Sam has definitely opened up more in the last few months and really seems to be settling in quite nicely. Moving back to the U.S. has helped, I think. Familiar ground. Thank you for your caring spirit. I hope you're doing well. :)

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