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Sep 28, 2010
Poly:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are transferring your anger toward your boyfriend for what all those despicable men did to you. You will drive him away, unless you get help for yourself. And trust me when I say that your relationship is anything but functional. You're hurting too badly for it to be functional. And while I applaud that you have stopped doing drugs and that you aren't drinking as much as before, you are still looking for ways to deal with the pain. Please seek out some form of counseling so that you can more appropriately deal with that pain. As fearful of counseling as you might be, remember that you've already survived the most fearful stuff of all: the actual sexual assaults, the betrayal and the abandonment. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Sep 28, 2010
I understand
by: Sunshine

I thought it was just me, that there is something wrong wiht me, that I have no desire, that I am bored, that I have to be drunk before I have sex with my OWN husband. Its not fair that my abusers took my right to my body away, my right to feel desired and feel desired.... their selfishness to satisy their own needs goes beyond belief.I understand you Polly I really do, cant offer you any advice as I have not figured it out for myself. What I wont allow them, is that I am very careful with alcohol , that I dont need it or become addicted to it.. they will not be allowed that win. They have taken enough from me. I love my husband very much, he is such a good man and oneday I pray I will feel again.
Good luck Polly, you sound a strong and lovley woman and I thank God that you too have found a loving man, maybe love will win after all.

Take care love

Sep 28, 2010
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by: Desi

I felt very sad upon reading your story. Thanks for sharing and I hope that one day you can find true happiness. I understand your reason for having such disappointed in your mother and animosity towards men, but you are taking your anger out on the wrong person. You said you forgave but will not forget. To genuinely forgive means to act as if though something has never happened. Some people are stronger than others and have better coping mechanisms. You have dealt with your pain by turning to drugs. Now that is out of the picture, you started drinking. That addiction is no better... you find one addiction and quit it... but that first addiction will always lead to another, sometimes more fatal - more deadly. You have a good man in front of you and you say your relationship manages to be functional. On the contrary, it is anything but that. Take advantage of this man you have, before you end up being alone for the rest of your life. Work a little on "self" each day... learn what it means to truly love yourself. It begins with you before love of any sort can be directed towards other people. 29 years old, grown, and consumed by pain. You have to start somehwere... sometime... so start now. Leave the pain in the past, live in the present, and look forward to the future. You will be alright, I know this. You have made it this far... You are strong and worthy of being happy. You are beautiful and deserve to know the good that life has to offer. I wish you well.

Sep 29, 2010
Be Brave: Be strong. Be persevering in seeking what is the right way forward for both of you
by: maurice

I have no doubt Polly B you are a strong and inteeligent woman: A fighter: A believer in yourself: Wanting to be healed: Wanting to LOVE and be loved: You'll be the winner over everyone who molested you: sexually abused you evne a mother who failed you: I'LL BE THE WINNER; It is my life Now that I am talking about: Already you have loving comments to boost you: Hi the one comment you need to heed and take action with is DARLENE'S: She has been nicely firm with you in saying exactly where you need to go from here in your life: I believe in you: I want you to believe in YOURSELF: My motto from this DAY the NOW time of my life is: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: Why Polly B because I am WORTH it: Receive my words loud and clear Polly B: I want what is the best for you and your BOY friend right NOW; Do you really want it too: I Do: I do: Okay act on Darlene's loving womans heart love to you: Go and search out a counsellor NOW: not tomorrow: Rem; my motto is I will: I can etc: You'll be the winner: From Victim to Victory like our hero Darlene was:

Oct 03, 2010
strong
by: Anonymous

polly b you are a strong person,keep going dont give up, what your father did WAS WRONG, its not your fault. god bless you =D

Nov 04, 2010
Your not alone.....
by: Anonymous

Hi Polly,

I read most of the stories on this site and they have helped me tremendously but most of all when I read your story I finally found someone just like me. I was molested by my father. I am now going on 36 and in love with my husband but struggle everyday to have an intimate relationship with him. Hun you need to get help and believe me it will help. Thank you for sharing your story with us because take it from me you just made a big difference in my life. "I am not alone"

Regards,
P

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