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Nov 13, 2007
I say you're looking at this the wrong way . . .
by: Darlene Barriere - webmaster

Pammy, you are NOT the only one with problems. You are NOT the one who needs "fixing." Perception is everything.

Your brother is a sex offender; perhaps a child or adolescent sex offender, but a sex offender nonetheless—that makes him as messed up as messed up can get! Sexual offenders don't change their offending ways. He molested you; there is EVERY chance that he is molesting other little girls, and getting away with it, because he's always gotten away with it. If he has daughters, they are in danger of being molested by him.

Your grandfather is a perverted sex offender too. He molested you; if he's still alive and he has granddaughters, there is EVERY chance he is, or will, molest them.

Your father didn't believe you when you disclosed abuse at the hands of your grandfather. He abandoned you. He betrayed you. And as if that wasn't enough, he made light of your disclosure by telling you "so long as it was Grandpa, there was nothing wrong with it." My God . . . what kind of father would NOT protect his daughter from harm? What kind of father would NOT keep his daughter safe?

Oh, and we cannot let your mother off the hook here. Where was she when your brother was sexually molesting you? Where was she when your grandfather put his filthy hands all over you? Where was she when your father wouldn't believe your disclosure? Where was she when your father's words to you after the disclosure were tantamount to laughing at you? Why wasn't she there to protect you and keep you from harm and help you through the most traumatic experiences of your life?

Then . . . THEN . . . as if all of what happened to you and the way your parents abandoned and betrayed you wasn't enough, as an adult, when they get a freely given admission from your brother that he molested you, they continue a warm and loving relationship with HIM??? Pammy, they abandoned you again. They chose the molesters in your family over their daughter who was the victim. They have a twisted sense of what their parental duties and responsibilities and loyalties were and what they ARE.

If anyone needs "fixing," it's your parents! And your brother! And your grandfather! You Pammy, do not need "fixing." You need—and are getting—help in order to deal with the emotional trauma and betrayal of your childhood. You are the only one from your family in therapy; that tells me you're the only one with her head screwed on right!

So you see, Pammy, it really is all about perception. You can't change the way you feel, but if you change the way you think, the way you think will change the way you feel.

From what you've told us in your story, it sounds as though you have a loving and supportive husband. I sincerely hope that is the case for you. You certainly deserve to have that in your life. And if you do have that in your life, it's because you made the right choice for yourself. So give yourself the credit you are due.

Dec 03, 2007
wow!!!!!!
by: Anonymous

oh my god that story waz so sick i cant beileive its true i wood kill myself if dat ever happened to me!!!!1

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