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Feb 04, 2014
Olivia:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Never compare your story to that of another. There will always be someone who has it worse. Always. When you compare your story, you minimize what has happened to you. In other words, you neglect your own needs in much the same way you've been neglected by your parents. That's understandable, since that's what you've learned from them. What's important is acknowledging the pain you're in. And that pain is deep. Be true to your feelings and emotions. Don't treat them as though they either don't exist or aren't worthy of existing. Fact is, you have been and continue to be mistreated. Start by making a pact with your Self that you will never mistreat yourself. Treat yourself better than anyone ever has. The messages you've received from your parents are not true. You ARE worthy of dignity and respect and love. You are smart & articulate & you have an insight that is present as a result of what you've endured. What you say about being told you'll be shipped out to a girls home or fostered out I can so relate to. I too was threatened in this way when I was younger. I too felt the betrayal & abandonment, as though I was never wanted in the first place. You will be in a unique place to be able to help others in the future, Olivia. So start by helping your Self. Don't stay silent. Reach out to any helplines available. If you don't live in the USA, but in one of the areas listed on my stories page, contact the appropriate hotline that is listed there in order to talk to someone confidentially. You deserve to be able to talk to someone. I send you love, light & healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Feb 05, 2014
Olivia
by: Mrs R.

Hi Olivia, You sound like a very intelligent girl who is fully aware of the wrongs done to you.

Yes they were done to you, you were not to blame and you must never take that on your shoulders. You were a child who needed love, nurturing, kindness, guidance and all the things that children should have to grow into a healthy adult. Unfortunately not of your doing your parents were cruel, unkind and seemed to use you to let out THEIR frustrations on you.
You state that you might have been sexually abused, this does not surprise me.

You need to get into therapy Olivia, speak with your family Doctor for a refferal or check out your local Mental Health Organization.

You have alot to get off your shoulders and to get rid of it in your life. In therapy you will have someone you can speak with on a regular basis who will help you to come to terms with what has happened in your past.

Your education you can always go back to, don't worry about that at the moment. I would please urge you to refrain from self harm. I did that when I was younger, now many many years later I have the scars on my arms that will never go away. They are with me forever.

Good luck Olivia, I really hope you will get into some kind of therapy and learn to love yourself and to realize it was nothing you did, you were the innocent victim!!!

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