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May 25, 2011
Nicky:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

No one here will ever question why you didn't tell. Most who visit here understand on many levels. But there is no question that your mother and P-- should have seen the physical signs of sexual abuse. A two- or three-year-old who has been penetrated would have definite indications that something was seriously wrong, indications that a parent would see quite clearly. Don't ever blame yourself for the abuse. Don't ever blame yourself for the suicide of the sex offender. HE chose to suicide, not you. You, Nicky, have nothing to feel guilty for, because you did nothing wrong. Please seek out some form of counselling in order to deal with your unwarranted guilt and blame. You didn't deserve to be abused. You most certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 26, 2011
First & foremost...
by: AnonymousT

...no one on here especially ever doubts why a child doesn't tell. We get it here, we understand.

Second, you are NOT responsible for your fathers death. He CHOSE to die & he CHOSE to leave you with guilt before doing so. How very unfair & manipulative! It's ok to feel sad & grieve over what could have been & never was, your father was a bad man - but please don't feel guilt - please see him for what he was. You had NO POWER over him, he had it over you & when he saw he no longer had it ...well, he chose to TAKE that power once again by committing suicide. Make sense?

Cancer is scary, but i feel we can beat anything if we truly want to. I know so many who have beat it, you can too.

Good luck.

T

May 26, 2011
Nicky...
by: Anonymous

Nicky, I can't believe that your "dad" would abandon you to the so-called care of those sick monsters for men and even allow them to offend you...how dare he! Shame on him for running away from you all the time instead of protecting you from his slimy friends! His job was and still is to protect you and he abandoned it. Oh, and his suicide has nothing to do with you; you are not to blame for their disgusting behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. I hope you're in a safe place now and that you will try counselling.

May 27, 2011
strength
by: Anonymous

Your strength is touching, and, as everybody else has clearly stated, you should feel no responsibility for the decisions your biological sperm doner made. He was, quite honestly, a coward. A coward for not facing his own demons, and forcing them onto an innocent child. A coward for not doing his fatherly duties of protecting his wonderful little girl. A coward for expecting that you would do all of the work of rebuilding some sort of relationship, allowing him to forgive himself. A coward for commiting suicide, and placing the blame on you. You, as a strong woman now should focus on your future, and your health. The world needs you, to pass on your story, so that maybe others might be saved.

May 30, 2011
be brave: Be Strong: Love your beautiful Self
by: maurice

Oh Nicky my heart goes out to you as indeed does Dalrlene's in her comment to you: please read her woman's heart true feelings for you: Her loving words: are so encouraging, gentle, kind, sensitive with total empaty for you: Your Bad Bad biological Father was one sicko: He choose all the things he allowed those beasts do to you so he could have money: Oh Nicky: It was great your loving mother with your step-sisters made you feel loved after it all: Gave you the opportunity to have a normal life after it all: Sure the abuse happened you which was never (ever) your fault: Please don't ever blame yourself: Loving every inch of you now is your main focas for living your life to the full from this NOW time of your life: With expert advice from your doctors you'll be fine even though it will be hard Chemo is Nicky: But be brave: Be strong: surround yourself with positive thinking friends who will help you live a full life: I sense you ain't a quitter and you'll be a winner over that sicko of abuser: and over The Big C; I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH it: I'M SPECIAL CELEBRATE YOU: YOU ARE WORTH CELEBRATING: HI FRIENDS I AM WORTH CELEBRATING: I AM WORTH EVERYTHING: I HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO LOVE, TO CARE, TO ACTIVE AND ALIVE DOING MY BEST TO HAVE A HEALTHY MIND IN A HEALTHY BODY: That you have NIcky: Work: Rest and play ballancing all three to live a very full life: Rem my motto is from TODAY I will: I can etc: I'll be a winner:

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