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Jan 18, 2012
 Nicholas:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The fact that you're gay doesn't give anyone permission to mistreat you. You are perfect as you are. Your parents are troubled and misguided. They seem to be punishing you because of your sexual orientation. Punishing you with abuse and by not letting you live with your grandparents. Please understand that what they're doing to you doesn't mean you're to blame. You are NOT to blame; they are. I urge you to contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about the abuse you are still dealing with. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. And you need to disclose the abuse, Nicholas. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Remember, you don't deserve to be mistreated. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you are being mistreated. And keep leaning on your grandparents for the support you need. Even if you can't live with them, having someone in your corner is so important. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and positive energy.

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Jan 18, 2012
 Note from a sister
by: Anonymous

Dear Nicholas: I really feel for you. My youngest brother is gay and I saw him go through alot. He was shunned by my Father, who was a "strict Catholic". I just want you to know that I'm Catholic also. I believe that no one has the RIGHT to condemn you or anyone else. I love my brother dearly and am very close to him. I have two brothers. Just to let you know, we all were abused. You see, it doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is, you absolutely did not deserve any type of abuse, especially from your own family. You are who you are, just like my youngest brother is. It's just too bad that people can't see a person for what's inside. I feel for you, my friend. I hope you get some councelling. Just be yourself. A loving sister.
Jan 19, 2012
 The sooner, the better...Darlene is right!
by: Anonymous

Nicholas, I really hope that you're out of that house now! Just because you're gay, that doesn't give your parents the right to abuse you, so please tell someone you really trust (yes, even your grandparents) and keep telling until he/she will finally listen to you and help you. Oh, and please look into reporting your so-called parents as well.
Jan 19, 2012
 A loving sister.
by: Anonymous

Please listen to the comment that was posted after mine, Nicholas. "Get out of that home" You do not deserve to be treated like this. Also, listen to Darlene. She has helped me profoundly. You need to be in a safer place.

A friend who cares.
Jan 21, 2012
 Nicholas
by: Rita M

Hi Nicholas,
I come from a huge family and we were all given up.Through the years my one brother in his adoptive home became gay.I never knew where he was.AS we all got older and found out who one another was I had heard about my youngest brother being gay.My family just couldnot understand his sexual prefferance and gave him my phone number.One night as my husband and our 2 girls were entering our home the phone rang.I ran up the stairs and answered the phone.He called me by name and told me who he was.He explained why he was calling.He was telling me that he has aides because he is gay.I hadn't spoken to him sinse our family breakup when he was only 7 years
old.That was in the 60's and when he called me it was in the early 90's.He told me that the family members were not accepting him as being gay.I could hear his cry of me wanting me to accept him.
He called from B.C. I was in ontario at the time.
I never knew what he looked like.Anyway.I called him by name and straight out told him thatI accept him for what he is not for what I judge him to be.I will be a loyal sister to you no strings attached.I remember him calling me in a deep sleep.He had been sobbing on the phone and
was grateful that someone in the family could accept him just as he is.He even apologized for calling me at a late hour.I told him I was delighted to hear from him.Life is too short and
I want to hear him no matter what.Then about 1 1/2 years later a family member recieved a messege that my brother had sent a letter by fax to the family giving me credit just for accepting him as he was.That is all he wanted.That is not too much to ask for.It has been a long time now sinse his passing and I look back and I must say I would do the same thing to someone else. I don't want credit I just want someone to know that I care for them and it is not up to me to judge.He was my brother.You are not alone and you can seek councelling and maybe go to a group for people that can relate to you.In the situation of where you want to live if you don't find any support at all please talk to someone that you can really trust because you have rights too.You will find peace you'll see.
Don't ever give up.
Rita M
Jan 22, 2012
 NIC
by: Anonymous

I have Parents, Brothers, Sister, Aunts, Uncles, Nepthews, Neices and Cousins. Guess what i am gay and nobody really cares. I love them all and they love me. Nobody should put up with abuse, it is narrow minded people who act otherwise. You talk about family not accepting who you are, that is a hard one to figure and may never happen. You make no mention of friends, guess your friends know you better then your parents. Talk to your friends, teenagers might not be adults but they are more honest. You may have to go your own way in regards to your parents but true friends will always be there for you. You may make new friends and forget the old ones but making new friends only improves ones experience of life. Here is me hoping you experience it to the fuliest protential

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