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Dec 25, 2008
Anger and hostility...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

NewZealandGal, I wrote an article some time ago titled Why parents target a specific child for abuse. While it is unlikely to give you any comfort, and it certainly offers no excuses for your parents' mistreatment of you, it may offer an explanation; which in turn may help you with some of the residual emotional turmoil you are currently dealing with.

I do understand the anger and hostility you feel toward your father; you've earned it. I must also say that by hanging onto the anger and hostility, it's you that is hurting and harmed, and eventually your son will feel it too. The best gift you can give to your son is to take very good care of his mother. I do hope you'll consider some form of counselling in order to help you through the anger. You're worth that help, and so is your precious little baby boy.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Dec 25, 2008
saving the real you
by: touched2mysoul

I understand saving the real you for those you trust... you have shared the real you here... in reading your story i relate all to well though my abuser was my mom and everyone outside of my house loved her.
I learned through counciling that the greatest gift you have in life is the real you... the greatest gift you can give your child is knowing the real you...
Those who missed out in knowing the real you... its their loss.
You have found a way to protect your self by having a you that some people see and the real you... i have done this as well and it helped me in my life.. but i am slowly learning to combine and bring out the real me more often... i am learning that i have worth and am special though my mother didnt treat me so... i wish you to find this as well...

Dec 25, 2008
A willing enabler for a mother and a vicious beater for a father
by: Francine

NewZealandGal, what your so-called parents did to you was and still is unforgivable. You should've deserved so much better. Even your sadistic mother is evil and malicious...and she even took pleasure in laughing at you while your dad was hitting you. To make matters worse, everyone outside of the house has always loved my parents as well as yours (even after your so-called mom's death)and would never take our sides at all. I'm delighted that at least you got out of that toxic environment that your so-called parents had deliberately created for you and I hope that you and your lovely son try counselling or therapy cuz that is the only thing that both of you ever deserve as well as love and respect. Remember, here are my words: NO PARENT, BIO, STEP OR EVEN FOSTER, SHOULD EVER LAUGH WHILE YOU GET HURT; THEY SHOULD NEVER FLIRT WITH ABUSE; THEY SHOULD NEVER EVEN GLOAT ABOUT BEATING YOU.

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