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Jan 11, 2008
You're in danger...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What your mother is doing to you is very wrong, Natalya. She is physically and emotionally abusing you. Her unchecked anger has left you bruised, battered and in danger. She could seriously injure you. You're right when you say she needs help. But right now, you're the one who needs the most help.

I urge you to disclose the abuse to the proper reporting agency. Natalya, you CAN'T be thinking about not seeing your boyfriend right now; you MUST consider your safety first. Planning to marry him in order to get out of your abusive home situation is the wrong path to take. That decision would be a very unhealthy one. Start making healthy choices for yourself today, right now. Contact your county to report what is happening to you. You are worth living life in a safe and supportive environment. At the very least, contact Child Help in order to talk to someone about the dangerous abuse you are still dealing with, Natalya. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will talk to you and lend an ear. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if—when—you decide to disclose the abuse. They can be reached at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453).

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jan 11, 2008
Get Help
by: Kailum

I kow you are scare to but you really need to go and get help. Maybe tell your boyfriends parents and then maybe they can help you. I am having trouble with my mom and my boyfriends parents are helping me out. I do not know what they are like but it is worth a try.

Jan 11, 2008
keep going
by: tor

Be strong! you are so amazing for being able to go through this so far. You have just described the sort of thing i went through for a very long time. (well proably not long) i am younger than you and in care. i have tried to kill my self once and very nearly managed it. My mum found me and i tell you what came after i wish i had died. She hurt me so badly i thought i was going to die. And all she said to me is
"Think what would of happened to me if people found out my daughter killed her self"
What your mum did to you is bascially what mine did to me. i unlike you was
not strong enough to keep going.
I ran away from home! Do not do this!!! in my case it ended up for the better i am now in a care home and i love it so much. i have always wanted brothers and sisters. Being the youngest i am always fussed over and looked after. Although this does get annoying!
Plz tell someone. plzzzz i know what it is like and cant stand the thought of someone else going through that. get help.
Other wise i would have gone on to the computer when i wasnt allowed for nothing!! lol.
u r so strong and amazing u deserve better. please dont live with this get out!

Jan 11, 2008
part two of my comment to Natalya
by: ros

part 2 of my comment)
please talk to someone i know it's very scary and i know you feel there is no way out but there is sweetie and it has to start with you , you sound like you have been a very strong woman from day one so take a look at yourself and see your beautiful face and ask yourself do i deserve to take any more if you can truly answer that then Natalya you can do it and with pride and strength, get out and talk before it too late , maybe both you and your boyfriend can go and speak to anyone that you trusted it will be worth it , i truly wish i could jump in this screen and take you in my arms and take you from your mother and help you heal your deep pains , sweetie i want you to believe you are not in fault of this and you are worth gold you are not doing well at school is because of your mother and the fear you carry every day you may get in trouble at school that is only because you are seeking for someone to look at your deep pain and help you that is normal for any child that is going through what you are going through,, take a moment of your life and see who you really are i can see just with you right this that your one amazing soul that can go a little more and find the strength to get out and seek help the right help ,,please let me know how you go and if you go out of your mother's home, the police with the help of your boyfriend or his mother will help you as well ,take care i will be sending the angels to look over you in more ways the one be strong Natalya your friend ros from over the other side of the world NSW

Jan 11, 2008
sweetie you need help now
by: ros

dear Natalya i truly understand where you are at. at your age i was treated the same no its not right and yes she is a sick mother for doing this, Natalya i would have to say to you get out now before it gets any worse are you able to talk to your boyfriends mother about this do you think she may take you in and treat you like a mother should treat their daughters. the scars are deep Natalya and it will take a huge amount of time for you to heal , the right why is to report her , I'm not sure of the USA law is, but if you go to school here and the teachers see welt marks on you they would not allow you to go back home , try going and talking to one of the teachers you trusted let them know you are scared to go back home and these are the reasons why , you are 16 now and turning 17 you are old enough to leave and get out of your mother's home without her knowing where you are if you do it the right way and seek the right help. again i would say try and talk to your boyfriends mother and see if you can stay there until such time as you can get professional help, damaged your life ,Natalya i plead with you to get out now don't take anymore of your mother's threats and beltings she has no right, sweetie you have more right then her, you can report her she will be changed for hurting you if you need to do so there is many help for young woman like you ,, i have a 13 year old girl i couldn't for the life of me see how any mother could do this i have asked myself for many years, there really is no answer just that your mother need help but right now you need to get yourself out of that home before she hurts you again, (Part 2 follows)

Jan 11, 2008
I Believe You, I Beleive You!
by: Francine

Natalya, I'm so sorry about what you had to go through! And yes, you are right, your mom is a sick, sadistic person who needs help (you'll need help, too). Oh, and you may not be doing well at school, but that doesn't mean you are stupid cuz YOU ARE NOT!!!!!!!!! You are still strong and smart! Whatever your mom did to you is wrong and sadistic! She is wrong in hurting you and she knows it! You might want to try some counselling. My parents argue with me, yell at me, call me names and hit me, too, but they haven't done more than that! I love you so much and I hope that you get a lot of professional help and I will pray for you all night. The only stupidity that I see comes from your mother.

Jan 15, 2008
There are people who can help you.
by: Anonymous

Do you have a adult like a teacher or a friends parent who you can talk too? You need to get out of the situation. Your mother is sick and SHOULD NOT be inflicting this abuse on you. What she is doing is crimminal. Please seek help. You are obviously an articulate and intelligent young women. You will need to speak to someone who can help you with your future and to deal with the abuse you have suffered. What about your boyfriends parents? Even go to the police. They will put you somewhere safe. Please, the sooner you get out of the situation the better. YOu have your whole life ahead of you. Be strong. You are in my prayers.

Jan 15, 2008
Get Help
by: Anonymous

If you haven't opened up to your boyfriend, do it now. His family could help you get through this. =)

Jan 26, 2008
GET HELP!!!
by: Anonymous

Natalya, god loves you very much. You are his gold, his pride, and no one should ever try to take that away. The police need to know, you need to tell them! just know you are loved

Jan 28, 2008
I am so sorry
by: Anonymous

Please, honey...report your mom!! You can't and don't need to live like that. There ARE places who can help you. What about other family members?? Can you get help from the,. Please try to find help. My heart goes outto you. I have two kids that I love with all my heart. I can;t imagine how any mother could do that to their own child. My prayers are with you.

Jan 31, 2008
TELL SOMEONE, PLEASE!
by: Linda

Please before it is to late, Sweetheart tell someone at school, or another family member,you can trust about your situation. Your mother appears to have some kind of mental problem and will only get worse. You have already taken a huge step, by writing your storyon this website. So please go to your principle or a counsilor at school and report you mother. Running away with your boyfiend isn't the answer. Take it from me, I thought that was my solution to abuse, but I ended up worse off. I'll pray you do the right thing.

Jul 12, 2008
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by: Anonymous

hey babe.. i know this reply is probably wasted now casue its real late, but 'm gonna take a chance.. ur right, ur moms sadistic.. that itself probably took you ages to come to terms with, which just shows how incredibly strong you are now. i want you to know that i believe in you, and i truely believe that you can pull out of the situation your stuck in. I live in india, and here, there arent any laws or facilities to help kids who are stuck in the similar situations, so please, take advantage of where you live and get some help. you dont deserve that life, noone does.

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