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Feb 17, 2012
Natalie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm going to say this to you, as well as to other visitors who I know read my comments because this is HUGE: You are NOT to blame for what this man did to you or to others. It's not your fault if he went on to abuse others, regardless of what you did or didn't do earlier. Pedophiles and sex offenders and abusers in general are always to blame because they choose CHOOSE to offend and abuse. Whether or not you told, you are NOT responsible for what this pedophile may or may not have done. Do not put mature adult values on what you did and didn't do when you were a child and adolescent. Fear is a powerful thing, especially to a child, and your abuser counted on that fear; the fear that he'd already instilled in you when he was so brutal with you after asking him to join your tea party. Your abuser took advantage of your youth and your vulnerabilities. He had all the power, and he misused that power. So please stop thinking about what might have happened if you'd told earlier, and instead, give your Self the credit due for telling when you did. And even if you hadn't told, give your Self the credit you deserve for surviving. I strongly suggest you seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with the repercussions of what you endured, as well as the unwarranted shame and guilt you still feel. You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. I send you love, light and healing energy, Natalie. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Feb 18, 2012
Glad that you told
by: Anonymous

Natalie, your so-called dad is deeply troubled and sadistic...and he can NEVER be trusted at all; he is a helpless bully who chose to use your youth and vulnerabilities for his sadistic gratification instead of simply helping himself. I'm glad that you told your mom about it; I just hope that you try counselling and that this sadistic beast stays incarcerated for all those terrible crimes that he committed against you; you did nothing wrong.

Mar 21, 2012
Proud of You!!
by: Anonymous

Am so proud of you Natalie - my daughter and I are in a very similar situation,. She disclosed after two years and he has also been arrested and bail has been denied!!

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