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May 13, 2010
It is perfectly natural to be transported back...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What happens to you when you're triggered with your mother happens to pretty much everyone who has been abused. Counselling can help with that. And counselling can help you figure out why you're aroused during times of extreme upset. Just so you know, children do resort to "comforting behaviour" when they are upset that can involve touching themselves. It's possible that those feelings of arousal are attached more to the way you comforted yourself when you were little than to any sexual abuse, but that's something to talk to a counsellor about. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 14, 2010
Do people who abuse ever realize the damage they cause?
by: Maurice

That is my question after reading your story, and indeed the many on Darlene site: Will we ver get to the root as to why parents/guardians of children resort to violence and physical abuse on the innocent and vunerable child: Teenager: Young adult: You were abused by a Mother who did not know the damage she was doing to you in slapping you etc or screaming into your face even up to your adult life: Darlene has given you a womans heart in her words of support and love for you: Where possible follow her encourageing and affirming words to you: Begin to get a life of your own: Stand on your own two feet: Be true to yourself that you never deserved that abuse treatment from your MOther: She was very wrong: It was not your fault: Say I am not to blame and I did not deserve to be hurt or humiliated by her: Don't let her be the winner and ruin your life for ever: Get counselling, heed Darlene's words to you: Act on them: Surround yourself with people who will love and protect you: Allow you to be the wonderful and beautiful person you are Now: Build up your Self Confidence: Always believe on yourself, your normal, inteeligent and want to do all that can help you to live your life to the full. Always believe in YOURSELF I can: I will: I must: because I am WORTH it:

Jun 07, 2010
Don't Listen to Your Mom
by: Rey

Your mom doesn't know what she is talking about. It's also perfectly understandable how you react when your emotions are heightened....its kind of like a natural instinct for you. Start making friends with people and open yourself up a bit to them. Talk to them about your problems, and gradually learn to trust. Talking helps, and there are AMAZING people out there who would stand by your side and help you and listen to you. Your mother is crazy, and didn't deserve to have a person as wonderful as you in her life. For pete's sake, she made you feel ashamed for a having a period! She is obviously not the right mind. Believe Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Domers, Charles Manson....they are WEIRD. Sweetheart, your a good person, and if your mother couldn't see you for who you are....then its her loss, not yours.

Jun 10, 2010
thanks for the replies
by: Name Withheld2

Thanks for the comments and thoughts on my story. Sometimes I wonder whether or not my childhood experiences can be classified as child abuse but i suppose they are, and I am still feeling the effects of them today.

Again, thank you all for listening to me.

Jun 22, 2010
You're not alone
by: Anonymous

I relate to you.
My father was abusive.
He was always screaming @ us or spanking us with his belt.
I've just recently come to the realization it WAS abuse !
Same with your mom.
My sexual side is completely out of control b/c of it.
I, too, get aroused thinking of the abuse.
In bed the only way I "enjoy" sex is be being degraded (talked down too, smacked across the face, held down, etc) and for some crazed reason, I love "reliving" the abuse, being spanked with a belt.
The thought of someone making love to me is just stupid and boring.
Sometimes, it gets to be too much for my husband, and he tells me how he doesn't want to hurt me.
Its hard, but again I'll say you are not alone...

Jun 23, 2010
You re-assure me: Thank You
by: maurice

Some times I often wonder are my comments reaching the right spot in the person I write them to: But I know they are from your Thank You special person behind Name Withheld2: Darlen's comment is the real one to act on: she is the loving expert and she sure speaks from her big heart to each of her visitors: She is very re-assuring to because she encourages others to write comments as to how they feel about the true real story of their abuse: It is a safe place to begin the process of healing from one's abuse: I would say deffineately all your mother did to you was abuse and the effects are still there: Let go of them by living your life to the full NOW as a beautiful person in your own right: Always believe in yourself: I hope your practising having a healthy mind in a healthy body: I am, I am, good on you special one:

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