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May 18, 2009
NOT your fault...I doubt very much your parents would "hate" you or find you "disgusting"...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I don't know why you think your parents will "hate" you or think you're "disgusting" if you tell them about what your cousin did to you. They're your parents; it's their job and responsibility to know what is going on in your life so that they can ensure you are kept safe from harm. What happened to you wasn't your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. You were sexually molested by your cousin, and then by a neighbourhood boy; both of whom were deeply troubled. THEY are the ones to blame, not you.

Try talking to your parents. If you feel more comfortable, bring a friend or your cousin Ryan when you talk to your parents. Tell them what happened and how your have been affected by it all. Be honest about your thoughts and feelings. Tell them you've been afraid to tell them because you thought they would either hate you or find you disgusting. I can assure you, the vast majority of parents would NEVER feel that way. They would instead be heartbroken to learn that their precious child could even think such a thing. Most parents love their children unconditionally. Most parents would want to hug you and tell you how much they love you. So unless your parents have exhibited clear reasons for you to believe they would be anything other than supportive, give them the benefit of the doubt. Don't keep this to yourself.

If you have good reason to believe your parents are incapable of understanding, then talk to a school counsellor or a trusted teacher. Consider contacting Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you.

But no matter what, dear, you absolutely need to talk about this. Don't keep it inside. Don't think you have to go through this alone, because you don't have to. And while your friends and your cousin can be a great support, they are not in a position to be able to really help you through all the nightmares and other repercussions of having gone experienced this. There are people out there who want to help you, but they can only do so if you reach out. Please reach out...and start with your parents.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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