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Mar 20, 2011
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Of course you have to talk about it; that's not stupidity, it's self-preservation. And it's also maturity, maturity that many adult survivors don't reach in a life time. So you don't not have to feel shame for needing to talk about this. It's perfectly natural. And just for the record, you have nothing to feel guilty for, either. You are not to blame; HE is. You see, this man was a sex offender. He took advantage of your youth and your vulnerabilities, and used that for his own sexual gratification. It's called "grooming". ALL the guilt belongs to him. What's happening now is that you are applying mature, more adult values to something you had no control over as a little child. You're not being fair to yourself. Please talk to your mother about how this is affecting you. Be honest with her. She wants to do what's best for you, but she can't do that unless you're honest. Tell her you really need to talk to a counselor. Based on what you've shared about her already, I'm sure she'll do what she has to in order to help you deal with all of this. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 22, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

Hi, undiclosed wonderful beautiful person behind undisclosed 88: your story is real: real to you: That baby-sitter did you a wrong and injustice: He abused you: Darlene will set you on the right path to put all you wrote about on her safe-haven-site into perspective for you only if you make real sense of her woman's heart words to you: You are a very Special human being of the female species: It was not my fault: I am not to blame: Sadly a conviction could not be secured when you told the police: Your Mother stood by you: Now you are away from him, get on with living your life to the full: Speak with a counsellor who will certainly help you understand about fears and doubts about what you knew than or did'nt and what you know now: You are maturing into a very beautiful woman: Now begin to have a healthy mind in a healthy body I honestly believe this will benefit you no'end: You'll make real natural friends: It will mean getting out there with your class mates, fellow student, yes your friends your own age and gender taking part in team sports and sporting and cultural activities: Set you horizons and ideals and go for them: You, are gifted, tallented, SPECIAL and I am certain you have leadership quailities that will beneit others when you share them: That Baby sitter your parents trusted did you wrong and used your innocence and vunerabilities to abuse you: Look in the mirror: see one very special beautiful and wonderful me looking out at you: Say positive things about you and that body of yours; be gentle and kind to yourself and it: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: Why beautiful undisclosed 88 Beacause I am WORTH WORTH it: get my message wonderful you person:

Nov 20, 2011
Thank you
by: undisclosed 88

I have only just realised that these comments are on here, and I wanted to say thank you so, so much for your kind words...both of you. Reading your responses bought a tear to my eye, and I thank you for taking the time to share your inspiration and your strength with me. I am still struggling with OCD, and a mood disorder which I am unaware what it actually is. One day I will seek the help I need, hopefully sooner rather than later, but right now just hearing your kind words has helped me more than you can imagine. Thank you, so much.

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