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Feb 07, 2011
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

This isn't YOUR "dirty" little secret; it's HIS because it's him who's the dirty one. He's a pedophile, and he's likely still sexually abusing little girls. Sex offenders do not stop until they are made to stop. Keeping this secret could mean more and more little girls are sexually abused by this sick excuse for a human being. I understand that you're worried about shattering the family, but what happened to you and your sister was not your fault. You have no shame to bear. If your family can't weather this, then they aren't much of a family to lean on. Families, family members, who embrace the offender instead of banding together to one, support the victim, and two, to ensure there are no more victims, are family members you don't need in your life. Please reconsider you position of keeping this secret. Other little girls could be saved from having to go through what you and your sister went through, but only if you tell. And please, seek out some form of counseling in order to deal with what happened to you. You didn't deserve to be sexually abused. You deserve help for the fact that you were. And if you can't trust your partner with the information, then you don't have much of a relationship. But I suspect your feelings are more shame-based than anything else. Just always remember that you have nothing to be ashamed of. What happened to you as a child was not your fault. What happens to you as an adult is now completely up to you. You must ask yourself: Do I want to be the kind of adult that stays quiet at the expense of other little girls; or do I want to be the kind of adult that steps up and does the right thing. Only you can decide. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 10, 2011
I know what you're going through.
by: Alyssa

My uncle did kind of the same thing but I completely ignore it and im fine. Tell someone. It really helps, but its kind of embarassing. Guess what? My sister told me he did something to her to so we kinda have the same things going on. I know its kind of embarassing to talk about so this is what I did. I was five when it happened, at eight my sister told me what happened to her so we both told our parents. They reported him and instead of answering all the embarassing questions, I asked the social workers to write down everything they wanted to know from me and I got a sheet of paper wrote the answers down and gave it to my counselor. (she was involved) saved me the embarassment. Hope i helped :)

Feb 27, 2011
please tell
by: Anonymous

your story brought tiers to my eyes--my child has been sexually abused by a family memeber --i caught it and proper authorities were notified--it's best to tell and get it out --i understand your worry of the impact it will have on your family--but you need to think of who he may be doing this to now --another child could be being abused --you have the power to stop it. I know my childs offender would've never stopped his acts--but he is now caught and will pay for this horrible crime

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