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Oct 14, 2010
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your spirit IS there (damaged perhaps, not broken), it's just very difficult for you to find right now because you are suffering so. When I was suffering as you are suffering I realized that the only way to get what I needed was to give it to myself. As long as I continued to believe that I wasn't the person I was supposed to be as a result of what I lived through, I was unable to connect with my spirit, or anyone for that matter. Lean into your spirit. Recognize that you (and your spirit) are not broken, that you lived through the worst of it and came out alive, a beautiful person. Then give yourself what you know you need. You will likely need help with this, so please, consider some form of counseling or therapy. Therapy certainly saved my life. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Oct 15, 2010
Don't quit: Don't give up on yourself: Be a winner
by: maurice

I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT:
With Darlene's Honest, loving, natural, caring, affirming words to you beautiful and wnderful woman of 31 years of age: That you are: Darlene's heart has gone out to you in her comment, please give it some time to digest and please act on her encourageing words to you. Counselling, please don't be afraid of it, you will have the courage to share in total trust and confidence once you get moving on finding a Therapist/coulsellor: You are so honest expressing your personality and your sexuality: I;M SPECIAL: In all the world there;s nobody like me: Since the beginning of time, there has never been another person like me. Nobody has my smile. Nobody has my eyes, my nose, my hands, my voice,I'm Special. And deep down I realise it's no accident that I'M SPECIAL: In all the world there is nobody like me: Always believe in yourself: You'll be fine: Live the NOW time of your life to the full: I WILL: I CAN: Make this your motto and you sure will love yourself enough to make things happen for you in your life: Your mother abused you shame on her: tried to kill your spirit, she did not because you have come to this site wanting loving affirming words to build on your own inner spirit: There's fir in your bell to be a winner over Your Mother: Darlene's words be pro-active. With your true friends around you who will hug and cuddle you and treat you with respect and dignity by embracing you in true love: The'll give you the hugs snd cuddles your mother neglected giving you: You NOW be in charge of your own destiny: Oh yes. say I will etc. I am going to be a winner: I am going to love and cherish myself and my friends which I so badly missed in my childhood and teenage years: I'm a big girl now: I'm a big hearted woman and I LOVE ME: Off your bottom now and get on with living your life to the full: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Be active; Be alive: take part in sporting and cultural activities with your friends and like-minded women and people your own age: Hockey: BasketBall: Football just to name a few team sports you are still young enough to be part of: No, I am not joking:

Nov 10, 2010
brave story coming out
by: Anonymous

First, I'm sorry you are in such pain. I do think you are eroticizing your pain, however, and you may be causing more confusion and thwarting your healing by transferring pain into being a lesbian. This is research based information. Not a judgement call in any way. You have the right to be with whoever you choose. Man or woman. I'm just saying, based on my own experiences and my own research and therapy, when women are abused by their moms, they often drift into lesbian behavior and hence, relationships. That's not saying you weren't going to be one anyway, but it's something to consider. I was with women for a long time, always searching for a replacement mother figure in some strange way. A therapist told me it's a form of "eroticizing pain." When I began to consider this, it was as if omg, that explains why I'm not fully connected to these women. I've married and have kids now. My high school and college days of being a "lesbian" far behind. Ironically, my past girlfriends, had ALL been hurt deeply by their mothers. One was molested by her aunt. It's just something we don't like to talk about in the gay community because it offends those who weren't abused and are truly gay. But we can't pretend for the sake of others who are always offended by something that is real and happened to us, but somehow threatens their agenda.

Nov 30, 2010
hi undisclosed69
by: Anonymous

hi i am so sorry for what you had to go through you are a very strong women and you should know people love you and care about you if i lived in the city you were from i would be your friend you sound like a cool person just hang in there thing's will get better!

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