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Mar 13, 2010
None of what happened was your fault...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sex offenders are great manipulators. They not only groom their victims, they also groom the child's parents and guardians, which puts children at even greater risk. Your grandfather molested other girls, of that I have no doubt. There is every chance he molested his own daughter(s). There is every chance you uncle molested other little girls. And it is highly likely that your doctor sexually assaulted many of his patients. The fact that you were quiet, polite and shy made you less likely to tell, which in turn made you more vulnerable; but don't EVER believe that that somehow made you responsible. Responsibility lies solely on the shoulders of the offenders because they choose to offend. I do hope you will consider seeking out some form of counselling. You didn't deserve to be sexually abused and assaulted. You certainly deserve the help now that you have. And the best way to keep your daughter protected is to keep her aware and informed (age appropriate, of course). Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 15, 2010
Don't quit believeing in yourself: It was never you fault:
by: maurice

A loving caring mother of a little girl: You build up trust and love in her for herself and you that she will be safe from all you were put through by perverted minded males. They were all wrong, very wrong: You know that now and if you read Darlene's loving re-assuring comment to you. Then you will take the appropriate steps to get real help for your doubts/fears and effects you still have around all that happened you. perverted people don't realize the damage they do to children/adolecents when they molest and abuse them. You were ever so innocent/vunerable/shy when they did horrible touching things to you. I never wanted things like that to ever happen to me. I was not to blane, Sadly your parents were not alert enough to spot this mans sickness and pervertedness. They maybe like your young friend wanted to see it with their own to believe you. You can only move on and learn from all those bad experiences of your past. Relate in love to your girl, tell her what is appropriate and educate her about her body and her sexuality step by step but do it to keep her safe. You are a good mother. Live well, Laugh alot, Love much beginning with yourself and passing it onto your beautiful child.

Oct 05, 2010
Your not alone~
by: Hannah3

Your not alone.I was not abused in the same type of way as you but every other way.I was sexually assaulted but i was only touched never any further then that.It only happened once and my other abuse happened multiple times.I was neglected,emmotionally,and physically abused for pretty much all my life.I was physically abused when i was three when my mother threw my older sister who was raped by one of our mother's lovers when she was passed out.Our "mother" pushed her down the stairs while she was holding me and she sustained a sprained ankle.Nothing really happened to me except bruises and a indent in my head..My sister was abused worse then me.She took her stress out by eating and eating.When she was almost 14 when she left,our "mother" pushed her to the limit so she called our aunt and she came and got her.J punched her so many times before our aunt could get there.I remember so clearly like it was happening now.My sister kneeled down next to me holding my shoulders and gently she said"You have to say you'll come with me.You have to say you'll come with me"she started to beg.I was only 4 or 5 at the time what more could i do but cry.I kept crying and didn't say a word.She couldn't take me without being charged for kid napping so she left me.Then our "mother" disappeared with me.For 7 almost 8 years we stood hidden her abusing me.So many times my aunt and sister were so close to finding me.They never gave up they searched for 8 long years until January 19th when my "mother" kicked me out of the apartment we were living in.It was wretched the hate in her eyes,the strength to her voice,how serious it sounded when she said she hated my guts.I still hear her enraged voice yelling at me.All because i wasn't sweeping.She laughed her walker which she had recieved after a horrible car accident at me.Her car accident had been about three months earlier and it had nearly killed her.Of course because of being the drunk she was she had recieved yet another DUI.I grabbed the phone and called my friend as fast as i could.She told her dad and they came and got me.I remember sitting on the wall outside and crying for thiry minutes where they drove all the wayfrom Gatlinburg to Pigeon forge.You aren't alone and neither am i.This won't be the last time it happens and it surely isn't the first.I am here for you and i will try to talk to you as much as i possibly can.I believe that more should be done to the human beings who do this to other children.It's ridiculous.My "mother" wasn't even put behind bars for this.I hope Karma bites her in the back!She was caught drunk driving after the last trial we had in a different state where she had moved!!!She left the state.Even if your rights have been revoked what kind of "mother" would do that?Anyways you aren't alone.I'm with you,my sister too.I will always be scarred skin and heart but we can heal if we go through the steps properly.

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