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Feb 13, 2010
It wasn't about crying...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. It wasn't about your crying in those counselling sessions. It was about the emotions you exhibited. There's a difference between the emotions attached to a memory you are sharing, and empathy or sympathy felt when relaying a story about someone else's child abuse. You may never know for sure whether these things really happened to you, but to continue on the path you are on is to deny the very real possibility that all of it did happen. Denial is a classic coping skill. Based on the effects you've now been left with, clearly, something has happened to you. But remembering isn't the primary goal, although recall is helpful in the healing and recovery process. The primary goal is to deal with the repercussions you've been left with. As for telling another person, sharing is something you would do well after you've developed a relationship with someone; it's not something you trust just anyone with. But in order to trust someone with that information, you must also accept the risk that the person will betray you. Trust is always risky, but without taking the risk, you will never be able to develop the deep bonds that are possible with another human being.

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Feb 14, 2010
Have a healthy mind in a healthy Body.
by: maurice

Indisclosed 38, I am say HI to a waonderful human being behind the annominity. That's fine too because you were brave enough and you had the courage to search for and find Darlne's Site. She was a visionary when she set up her website.She certainly has given each of her visitor the opportunity to live life to the full having been abused in the innocence of their childhood and during the teenage years. She overcame her horrific beatings and abuse to make a life for herself. She knows the value of therapy and counselling in that a start, a new beginning, she is now a victom to victory from her own theraphy, She is now a victom to victory in becoming a professional woman in her own right. Beautiful and wonderful gentle, sensitive human being read her comment to you. soak into your being her heartfelt empowering words to you personally. get off your BOTTOM, becaime active and alive in beginning the healing process she encourages you to have right now in your life. Always believe in yourself. Have a healthy mind in a healthy body by becoming a team person. mixing with other like minded males/females in sporting and cultural activities. This you can do naturally, there is safety in numbers, it will get you out and about from your house, your bedroom, mixing with healthy minded people your own age. We all know who suffered abuse beginning to trust someone is most difficult/hard. I found once I began playing sports and being part of a team I began to look at myself differently while shareing socially with my team mates. Hi true hunmn being of flesh and bones you too can live a full life after your abuse. You must be in charge of your own destiny. If you decide to live in the morass of your abuse then you will. But if you begin to take Darlne's heartfelt words to you then you will slowly lift yourself up and out of that morass. I CAN DO IT: I WILL DO IT: I MUST DO IT: SIMPLY BECAUSE I AM WORTH (WORTH) IT. GET MY MESSAGE. Look in the mirror and trust yourself first, build up your SELF ESTEEM. Look at the wonderful and beautiful me looking back at you. all parts of me are beauty itself. be gentle and kind on yourself, but be firm with yourself, get off etc and move on beginning with sticking with counselling. work through the pain of your abuse and you will then gain a whole new life for yourself. Know. Darlne know best. she wants what is the best for you now at 24 years of age. live well: laugh alot: love much: beginning with yourself TODAY, NOW.

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