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Dec 31, 2009
It's possible you were abused yourself...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I suggest you seek out some form of counselling to help you deal with this turmoil, someone who will help you put things into perspective, someone who can help you get to the bottom of what did or did not happen to you as a child. Other than that, no one who visits here can give you any advice. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jan 03, 2010
I feel your pain too.
by: Dan1

I have a similar incident that went on when I was between 10 and 12 years old. My mom took care of her friends little boy since he was three ( I was 4 or 5 years older then him). When he was 8 or 9 and I was 11 or 12, we ran into a pornographic vhs tape when we were playing outside. To make a long story short we would secretly watch it in my room and eventually we got curious and started copying sex acts from the movie. We never thought anything of it like if it was right or wrong.By the time I was 14 or 15 I had my health class and learned about sexual abuse. I started remembering back about what I did as a child and felt horrible and I would pray to god for forgiveness. I thought about him so much for so many years (I didn't see him much after I turned 13). I needed to know if he was ok physically because I don't want him to feel that he was ever abused. I saw him recently and learned that he doesn't hate me. We didn't talk about what we did as kids or anything I'm still building up the courage for that. but he did say that I'm like a big brother to him.But try talking to your cousin. I know it won't be easy, but who knows maybe they want to talk about it too. I'm sure that once you talk to your cousin and tell' em how you felt about all that, you will feel a lot better. I already have a plan on how I want to talk to my friend I just need a little courage now.Looks like we both have a job to do.

Jan 05, 2010
Counselling is one sure way of learning about oneself
by: maurice

Undisclosed 32, Darlene sure in her comment to you encourages you to talk to a professional person i-e counsellor/therapist Oh yes she's right you can know she wants what is the best for you at this stage of your questionings about what you rightly say exploration is normal as children. If you (one) has still not healthy feelings around it then talking to a counsellor will put your mind at ease about whatever is bothering you about it. The older one is that exploration was a lot more innocent, than in latter years when we read and hear about underage sex takes place which means the innocence of a child has moved on in this whole area of exploration. That is why Darlene's loving/caring words to you need to be acted on so that you get peace of mind about your innocent times of exploration with your younger cousins. Only your counsellor can advice you on a one to one telling of what you have written on Darlene's site. It is a great beginning for you especially at the beginning of a NEW YEAR Once you seek out a counsellor then Darlene's words will become real for you.

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