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Oct 07, 2009
You have every right to feel the way you do?
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The degree in which you suffer is the issue here, not whether the acts committed against you were legal or fall under the legal definition of abuse. It has been my experience that "moving on" is not something that can be demanded or commanded; it is something that happens when a person can resolve the underlying issues, and then put them to rest as the Past in order to live in the Present. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
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Oct 07, 2009
Thank you!
by: Anonymous

Dear Darlene, Thanks for making this website available, and for responding to my post. It's great to have a connection to other people through your site, and to be able to read about other people's struggles. I have a new appreciation for what a lot of children go through. Thanks for being there for us!

From Darlene: You are SO welcome! And thank YOU for taking the time to share such warm words of appreciation; appreciation that is reciprocated. It's people like you who are so willing to speak up about their abuse and their feelings that help others who have gone through something similar. I couldn't do what I do without such courageous visitors.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir



Oct 07, 2009
Why should they call it "tough love" when they abused you?
by: Anonymous

Whatever happened to you is not your fault; your family is really to blame because they should've protected you from harm. They are very twisted in their own ways of thinking because they have problems and they really need help...but you need help, too. You guys might want to try counselling...especially family counselling. I'm sorry for what you went through...I can relate; my "parents" (just as they call themselves), too, expect me to be happy all the time...especially when we'd got out and when we were in public...they actually still see no wrong in abusing me and always know how to put on an act (which means being nice as pie to everyone). Oh, and you really didn't let anyone down; in fact, the entire world really let you down. I can relate to the world letting you down, too; I, too, grew up in the world where everyone always seems to be arrogant, cold, blind, deaf, mean and selfish. Nobody believe me at all when I tried to tell them that my "parents" were trying to destroy, hurt and kill me; in fact, they just actually turned their backs on me and said that I "deserved what I got", that I "deserved to be punished for being bad", and that this was what I "got for dishonoring my 'parents'"...and with that, I never trusted anyone again...except animals, that is. To make this long story of mine short, this is how I can relate. Be brave and stay strong!

Oct 08, 2009
The Posssibilty is always there.
by: maurice

The Possibility is always there That the way I was abused by being beaten on my bare bottom as a child and teenager may not be abuse to another. There are times I question myself how is it that the many others were beaten in the same manner and seem to be okay with it. I only know the handful who related how being beaten in such a manner effected them and how it messed up their lives, Their confusion, their arguements with their wifes or partners re should we beat our children or not. creating a struggle between them and thus upsetting. Yes, I accept I was abused because likewise I went through years of questioning the rights/wrongs of sapnkings/beatings of children/teenagers/adolecent. To be told by the expert I shared it with that I was abused and it can effect ones personality if I did not get help. All these years later having learned about what abuse is all about in all it's forms I feel for those who are still all confused about it. I can only know how abuse can effect someone if they trust me to share their pain and confusion about it. I am certain there are many who are still putting themselves through alot of pain because they are confused about it all. I you were abused and it is still effecting you please be loving of yourself and get help. Darlene Thank you, your site is a wonderful learning and healing site. You know, you've been there, abuse has happened you and you acknowledged from the beatings you received that you were abused. You then found healing and help and you realized there were many out there who went through what happened to you and needed to acknowledge that they were abused. Your site is a GOD's sent to your many visitors. Thank you

Oct 08, 2009
To Anonymous and Maurice
by: Ghost

Thanks for responding to my post, both of you. Anonymous, I wonder if you'd like to write (or have written) your story here? I took some time to write Ghost, because I was writing about my whole life, so getting too specific didn't seem possible. Sorry if it was too generalized. But I think I got the point across. I agree with what you both have written. Your responses to my story are so helpful. I think I've spent a lot of time questioning myself, in and out of counseling, and it is a real comfort to be validated by you, and by Darlene at this site. I have a little niece now and I have promised her that I will do everything to listen to her and validate her feelings, and that I will protect her from abuse as much as I possibly can. This site is helpful because it opens my eyes to everything so many children experience that remains hidden for years, sometimes lifetimes. Thanks for all your help and support, for taking the time to read my story!

Oct 08, 2009
You'll be fine, You've acknowledged love of you from a distance
by: maurice

Great Ghost, wondeful and beautiful human being with flesh and bones that feel. A heart that is acknowledges other hearts that care, love, feel, Thank you. Now get real help from a counsellor and friends who love you for who you are now. we're all encurageing you. Praying for you. Live well, laugh alot, love much and your niece now will put things in perspective fpor you regarding having been abused. waht are you protecting her from.??? 'EH'' you've named it.

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