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Dec 19, 2012
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You don't ever have to worry that some men or others are going to leave a message that says they "liked your story". That's just not the way things work on this site. I screen EVERY post, including comments. If they are inappropriate, they are deleted without ever going live.

Your sister was very clearly abused, exposed to sexual acts from a very young age which is why she acted out sexualized behaviours. She obviously didn't get enough of the help she needed to ensure those sexualized behaviours didn't get passed along to others. Oftentimes, this is as a result of not knowing what to do, not understanding the behaviours that could ensue or who might be victimized. At this point, understanding all this might not be helpful, at least not yet, but with knowledge comes understanding. But understanding is only available when we have the opportunity to express our feelings & emotions first.

It's not a surprise that your sister would deny what she did. She was a victim first. She did not have the ability to truly and fully comprehend that what she was doing was inappropriate at 4 years old. After all, she was likely subjected to the same treatment by someone older, someone she trusted. Going to your sister for an admission or some sort of statement of accountability is not likely to garner what you need. I strongly recommend you seek out some form of counselling or therapy in order to help you deal with the feelings & emotions that what you endured has left you with: betrayal & abandonment from your parents for not protecting you; anger & hostility at your sister for not stopping when you told her to & for exposing you to what she had been exposed to; and lastly, possibly anger and disappointment to yourself for not being able to stop it. I'm not for one second saying that your should feel that way; I'm just suggesting that that anger & disappointment, possibly even shame, might be there inside you. You deserve that kind of help. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Dec 19, 2012
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