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Oct 26, 2012
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have the right to make choices for your Self, including the choice to distance your Self from your mother. I have a belief that when someone asks for forgiveness, they're doing so for themselves, not for the person they harmed. I see this so differently than I see making amends. Making amends shows the person that was harmed how sorry they are and understands how their actions affected that person. Asking for forgiveness is asking to be let off the hook for their own sake, not for the sake of the person who was harmed. I also believe that we are not truly free until we forgive those who do us harm. But that takes healing first. Meet your Self where you are. Respect how you're feeling about this whole thing. Talk to someone about what you're feeling, someone who can truly help you, like a therapist or a counsellor. You're not ready to let your mother back in your life, and that's perfectly okay. You might be ready in the future, but maybe you won't. Concentrate less about what your mother is asking you for from you, and more about what you NEED from your Self. Second chances can only come from your heart, not from your mother's desire to be absolved of her guilt. You need help sorting through this and dealing with the effects her abandonment, betrayal and abuse has had on you. Reach out for that help. You certainly deserve it. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
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Oct 29, 2012
Have you ever heard of a FOO?
by: AnonymousT

A FOO is a Family of Origin.

You have family in your foster parents. You do not have to be family with your Family of Origin, you can cease all contact.
At times this thought makes us feel guilty, but we have to do what's right for us, right?

When we're kids, we go into survival mode. We do what we have to to persevere and survive.

As an adult we can begin to make our own choices that are healthy and we will benefit from.

Feel proud of yourself for thinking in a forward motion. Move ahead in life. You can do this.

T

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