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Jun 03, 2009
Born with a "job"...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Mitch, you were born with a "job", the job of securing the love your mother never received from her own parents. And yes, you did become the rival. Your mother was very troubled, emotionally deprived and depraved. Her mental instability left you in harms way. You paid dearly for her mental state. You paid dearly for your absent father.

Now you wonder what you have to offer a woman.

Mitch, you have MUCH to offer. You still have your spirit. You are an understanding man. You have the ability to recognize why things happen. You have your heart. You have the ability to love. You know what it is to be abused, so you know NOT to abuse.

Mitch, if you believe you have nothing to offer a woman who comes along, then you believe the lies your mother beat into you. And they were (and still are) lies. Every time she made you pay the price for her emotional neglect, she lied to you. She told you that you were worthless and unlovable. But nothing could be further from the truth. If you believe you have no value, you have taken your mother's sickness and turned it inward. If you believe her lies, you have taken the torch from your mother, embraced it and made it your own to hold up high. If you believe that all you have to offer is emotional neglect, you have missed the fact that you are so much more than your childhood. You are NOT your childhood. You are NOT what your mother did to you. You are much deeper than that. You're special. You're worthy of love and of dignity and respect. You're a man who has much to offer a woman, so much more than what you are looking at, so much more than what you think.

You can't change how you feel, Mitch, but when you change how you think you automatically change how you feel. Start questioning your negative thoughts about yourself, and then replaced those negative thoughts with the exact opposite thoughts. There you will find the truth about what you have to offer. Counselling might be able to help you with this. You didn't deserve to be mistreated. You DO deserve help to re-write the messages you learned as a result of that mistreatment.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jun 03, 2009
Hi there there's goodness and greatness in you
by: Maurice

Yes, yes it is very understandable Mitch you feelings of low self esteem for yourself and then for the women you've tried to befriend and relate to. Your mother was one unlucky baby through no fault of her own likewise to some degree you were too. Your grandparents were silly and selfish wanting to knit together a baby boy in your grandmothers womb. God does the creating and making of the gift of the child He gives families. Mitch, you were abused from day one on your birthing day, your grand parents took you from the mother that birthed you. That Mitch is a wrench that will take time to make sense of. You certainly shared very honestly and intelligently your story to Darlene. Great you found it, if you are serious and want to be helped, then you can begin by taking Darlene's words of comfort, kindness, love and understanding to heart. it is over to you now. Think positive, act positive, be positive and rid yourself of the years of negative feelings of low self esteem. Start beginning to believe in YOURSELF. Look in that mirror, find one where you can see the whole of yourself in. Speak well of the guy in the mirror, oh yes that's you so start beginning getting to know the real and beautiful you MALE person. Help the child within you to grow. Be gentle with yourself, you've journeyed with alot of pain. hurt and confusion. I can make it, I will make it in life. I will do it for myself first and then I'll make real sense to the people I befriend on the way especially those of the female species. A mother is a mother Mitch so begin to LOVE her Now as you no better she did not want to abandon you but because of circumstances beyond her control at the time she found herself helpless. Don't blame her, She needed then alot of love and support as you do now in you life Mitch. Try and understand that and slowly build up your own self worth and self esteem. I'M Special, don't just say it BELIEVE IT MITCH.

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