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Nov 26, 2013
Miriam:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

As long as you continue to judge yourself for what happened you will not see things in a different light. You can't change what happened. But what you can do is put a different outlook on it. Understand that you were a vulnerable young girl. Understand that you were just a young girl, without the benefit of boundaries. That were were taken advantage of by some terribly misguided people. That you had very little power in your life, so you found it where you could. Find kindness, compassion, understanding and love for the little girl that you were. It's your thoughts that are producing the unhappiness in your life right now, Miriam, not what happened. Because what happened is over and one with. It's what you now tell yourself about what happened that is bringing the misery. So change what you think about what happened. Give the little girl you a break. Recognize that she did the best she could with what she had. And she DID do the best she could. Embrace the little girl that you once were, don't reject her. She's very much a part of you. Find ways to bring purpose to what you went through. These are the keys to finding peace. I send you love, light and healing energy, Miriam. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Nov 26, 2013
I hear you
by: Anonymous

Hi Miriam,
I let all kinds of sexual things happen to me, too. I work with a therapist. I have been married for 25 years, but I never becamea Mother. I wasn't worthy of becoming a Mother because of what I let happen to me. My therapist teaches me that I was a beautiful child. There were no boundaries in my family either. I was the object of dirty jokes. I still feel it when I hear dirty jokes. I still TELL dirty jokes, just because I am "used to it". What Darlene says is right: it is your thoughts that make you unhappy now. You are beautiful. Just think, you are the lucky Mother of four sons! You have a chance to help make the world a safe place for their children and their children's children, just because you can TALK about what you felt growing up.
Good luck and keep us posted as to your progress...

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