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Mar 24, 2010
Milla:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Mar 24, 2010
no dont run away,
by: Anonymous

no dont run away, you sound like my family

everyone gets accused of what other people do
me and all of us

you are not alone, this is a method of abuse i feel strongly about this. then they can turn you against one another, each day is hard when going thru this but i tell my family live day to day and if someone nice to you that day dont hold grudge that avoids being blamed for others mistakes

not holding grudges would be good way to put it to the family . to start

i am trying to remember how i figured out
not to blame one child for the other
i know , because it became so obvious
to me , no one is so normal and nice then acts out of character, i think you need to stand up and dont let yourself get blamed not by arguing but by example , heard the expression kill them with kindness, learn scicology to get around what your other sibling does out smart her
show you are the good child

sounds stupid but, it pays to be good
even if lies and get accused of stuff
they will figure it out later and you will be great person

long time went by my family jeolous of me my brothers and all and had sibling i didnt know still cant know why i dont know
but i got the nicest compliment one time
i came to visit my parents and when i came in the room my neighbor worked there where they lived old in nursing home
everyone looked at me as i came in , he said
thats the good daughter, i never forget it
made me feel so good , great matter of fact and proud , dont leave your parents with your sibling , bad one who does stuff please

they deserve you, life is 50 50 anyway i feel
with out you incomplete
someone important cant run away and then missing something and someone and end up with the one
not meant to be , i dont think running away meant to be from what you said . about blame thing
exact opposite you need to make your mark in the family , if anything the other sibling leave why would you get blamed.
i know this feeling very well but those closest to you and those who really know you ,
so show who you are so they know you really know you then you might get blamed but they will see the light sooner than later i bet.

our family we live our life where we are scapegoated all the time blamed for things other s do. lately we been winning end up god on our side , nature and well things i never thought after all the troubles end up happening.
good stuff, so if we can survive , and stand up for ourself so can you. you know who you are
the more you show it to people and mainly yourself then no one get in between your family and your parents and life and what you want this is what i learned and my family learned

Mar 25, 2010
Abuse is still abuse, verbal, physical ,emotional
by: Mac

Milla; Your family does seem to have some issues. You can't fix or change them, but you can seek help for yourself. CPS may be your best bet, I'm not sure. It's obviouse that your home enviorment isn't good, & unfortunately, those situations tend to escalate. Hurting people hurt others.And unless they get help, it'll just be worse,as they are piling up more anger,etc.within them. Once again you cannot help them to change, or change them. Your safety is of upmost importance. Keep us posted.

Mar 25, 2010
Update
by: Milla

I think it has recently gotten worse......My parents they just let my sister do anything and im stuck cleaning the house. My sister is allowed to push me around and beat me up, literally and she gets zero consequences but if I pushed back.....oh Im in a world of trouble. Yesterday they said they would take my texting away cuz I was texting in class but my sister did it 2 times Not One But 2 and still hasnt gotten her texting tooken away! I just feel empty.....and hurt and like Im the one that does EVERYTHING wrong.

Mar 26, 2010
Parents can be dumb in valueing each child equally
by: maurice

Milla, great you had the courage to search for and find Darlene's site. Her busy life seems not to allow her to write a comment at this time. But you will find her helpful advice in all her comments previously written. Her love and encouragement to all her visitors is to talk to someone about their abuse. especially a teacher that you trust. or a school counsellor. Your parents are abusing you mentally/emotionally so you need to have it stopped or find ways to cope with it. One sure way is to get involved with Team Sports and community activities in your area. so you are out and about. Having a healthy mind in a healthy body. Do talk to someone and tell them your feelings. You are not squelling on your parents but getting help for yourself. Your Parents should treat you and your sister equally. Each of you have your own giftedness, tallents, each special and unique, Maybe if you had a sisiterly chat she might see you love her and want to be loved by her. when you parents see your love for each other they might stop treating you they way they do. Always believe in yourself.

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