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Sep 24, 2010
Mik:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Please don't try to deal with this by yourself. It may well be time to put some distance between you and your brother in order to move forward. Consider some type of counseling in order to help you deal with all this. Don't to yourself what your parents did. They forgot about YOU. They didn't understand that your brother was himself a sex offender; and could well still BE an offender. Get help. And at this point, just stop communications with this obviously insensitive and troubled brother of yours. Talking with him is NOT helping you. This is less about what he deserves and more about what YOU deserve: help. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Sep 25, 2010
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

Don't lower yourself to your brothers level: He is an abuser: He abused you simply because he did not accept that teacher abused him: You have two sickos's out there now: You were sexually abused by this brute of a brother of yours: He's not worried about the effects it is still having on you: He is a bad man of the male species: Mik you have a life to be lived: Live it to the full with your husband: your very special friends of which I hope you have at least one or two of the best: You deserve the best for yourself now: You be the winner: You get help for yourself: speak with a counsellor who will put what you let out in the telling to Darlene and her visitors who can truly empatise with you: Darlene sure has given you a very loving comment: Follow and act on her loving words to you: She truly wants you to be happy: You may not be if you carry out what you related in your story: let go of your brother don't bother with him: stay apart with the people who matter most in your LIFE NOW: Darlene sure has given you the soundest of advice out of her heart of love for you: Mik it is personal to what she wrote: She know best: so please read and act on her loving honest words from her heart to you: Begin today living your life to the full: Please speak with a counsellor: Your parents did not love and cherish you as they should have: They sided with your abuser which makes them part of what he did to you: They did not love or cherish him either when they did not protect him from his abuser: How pathetic of Parents: You are an intelligent woman, you'll do what is the best for you NOW; Darlene has given you a way forward that will help you and your healing from your abuse: Act on and take her words to heart Mik>

Sep 25, 2010
Strength
by: Rey

It makes me extremely sick to hear what your brother did to you and how your parents allowed him to get away with everything. But you must forgive him...not for him but for you. Forgiveness is for the betterment of the soul. I also think that you might need some therapy with what you are going through now, it is ok to get help. As for how your brother treats you now....I can only suggest that you completely stop all contact with him, so that you as an individual can heal.

Sep 25, 2010
Mrs. R.
by: Anonymous

Hey Mik, I hear you and can empathize with you. I know what is it like to be a victim of your family, I live with those scars too. In my family the man was always revered and the woman was blamed for enticing the male.
I really do encourage you to find a councellor whos expertize is working with Abused Women, you need to get all of that anger out and channelled in a safe environment. Talking really helps, you might feel embarressed or ashamed but it is not your shame it is your families remember you were a defensless little girl, none of what happened was your fault. It took me many years of therapy to finally say to myself that I was not to blame i was the victim like you.
I wish you all of the very best Mik and please for yourself and your husbands sake stay away from the ones that have hurt you. look after you, you are important, you matter:))

Oct 11, 2010
Thank you
by: Mik

Thank you all so much for your comments. I feel very touched you all took the time. I've read your advice many times and will continue to. I wish I could stop contact with my brother but when I tried that years ago it caused me more difficulties with my parents and I wasn't strong enough to deal with it so I find it easier to just pretend. I think I will have to wait for them to reach the end of their lives and only then can I say goodbye to my brother with no fear of judgement from them. It doesn't cloud my life daily, I stopped the memories controlling me years ago with help from a friend and my husband and counselling in my 20's. But it just doesn't go away and every now and then creeps up unexpectedly. Anyway thanks again and I will work on all the much appreciated advice.

Oct 11, 2010
I hope and pray you are in a better place and space NOW
by: maurice

Hiya Mik: I sincerely and genuinely hope you have made great strides in your healing and learning: If you followed Darlene's loving encourageing words to you you have made a good satrt for a new beginning in your life: Your life and destiny is in your hands NOW; Be true to yourself and those you trust: I hope you have made a friend or two your own age and gender so you can walk together as friends; A good and true friend is a golden nugget: A gem in your life Mik: I LOVE ME: Do you:? Have you ever thought about it: Love begins and ends with me: Peace begins and ends with me: Mik look in that mirror: Say I love me and mean it: Please be a friend to yourself: I will: I can: I must because I am WORTH it:

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